So my fiancé and I got into a big argument last night over a guest. The backstory, his brother, and my ex-friend set us up together. My ex-friend and his brother have been together for a little over 2 years. It was his brother that really pushed for us to date. However, the more involved and serious we got, the more toxic she became to me. She flipped out when she found out that were we marriage and kids serious. My ex-friend used to be a close friend, but now I want NOTHING to do with her. She's called and texted my coworkers to the point where they ask her to leave them alone telling them she's "worried" about me and has concerns about my guy not being good enough for me and makes up drama to them that we do not have. She also blabs my private life to almost everyone at work which I am very uncomfortable with as I am a very private person. It's made me uncomfortable to the point where I asked her to not talk about my private life at work and instead of respecting that, she got upset, told another coworker how dare I tell her not to talk about my private life and lied to my face about how people have been "so worried" about me. So I held all this in for about a month, but it really got to me and I finally told my fiancé (we were still bf/gf at that time) and I made him promise to not say anything to her because I did not want drama at work. Anyways, so she made up stories to her bf about how were weren't close anymore and so his brother called my fiancé and trying to figure things out... and my guy ended up telling him what I told him. Of course it got back to her and after that, she made my life hell at work and isolated me to the point where I came home crying my eyes out. Out of the blue one day she blows up my fiancés phone as if nothing is wrong and he told her that she can't talk to him unless she fixes things with me... instead of saying sorry, she blows up at him and told him he should be grateful that she "gifted" him "my v*****, my house, my 4 runner". She's completely toxic and acts like she owns me. It's been months and never once has she reached out to either of us to even make any attempts at an apology. She talks bad about her bf, he bf's daughter, my fiancé, their entire family. The problem here, my fiancé wants his brother to be a groomsmen, which I am completely fine with, but he feels like we have to include the gf in everything to not "hurt" his brother's feelings. We are also planning on renting an estate for our wedding party and mom's and dad's to stay in all together. The last thing I want on my wedding is to have these feelings and be unhappy on my wedding day. I want NOTHING to do with her, let alone fork out money for her to come and spend 72 hrs with us for housing and food on our dime. My fiancé said he can't upset his brother by not letting her come and I got upset and said what about MY feelings??? I don't think that your brothers feelings triumphs MY feelings on MY wedding! Then he said what about my feelings and I said your feelings are dependent on your brothers feelings, not exactly your own feelings. How is it possibly fair to make me feel this way for 72hrs for the duration of our wedding, a day where I'm supposed to be happy just to appease your brother? This is OUR money and OUR wedding. Not your brothers or her wedding. My fiancé also has agreed that he doesn't want to invite her and it was literally be a default invite. I said we aren't obligate to invite anyone, especially someone who has been this toxic and betrayed me. Sorry for the long rant. I was crying all night over this. Just the thought of her upsets me.
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