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Dedicated August 2016

UPDATE: Umm...Why are you coming on my honeymoon?

Soon ToBe MrsJohnson, on July 29, 2016 at 11:48 PM

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Ok, this is gonna be a mini vent session. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks this is weird. Let me give y'all some background information. My family and I have been kind of estranged. I want even sure if I was going to invite most of them to my wedding. But based on the advice from a family...

Ok, this is gonna be a mini vent session. I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks this is weird. Let me give y'all some background information. My family and I have been kind of estranged. I want even sure if I was going to invite most of them to my wedding. But based on the advice from a family friend, I told them about my engagement and watched their reactions. Most of who I told (and would even consider inviting) responded positively. So they're coming to my wedding.

Early on, FH and I knew what kind of honeymoon we wanted. We didn't want to go on the typical all inclusive, 4 white walls, standard room honeymoons and our budget wouldn't allow us to get suites. We wanted the more natural, boutique style hotels that were more intimate. So a cousin who is a frequent flyer offered to give us points at an all inclusive hotel she and her husband use when they visit the honeymoon city. At first we were skeptical and stubborn. We didn't want to.. (on mobile) *continued in comments*

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  • Spirit
    VIP October 2016
    Spirit ·
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    This is why you pay for your own things... because these things happen when you let other people in your planning.

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  • Spiff
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    Spiff ·
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    Is it possible that you can't go u less she is there too? Maybe she can only get additional rooms if she is also going go be there.

    I get discounts through my job and I can add additional rooms, but I have to be there too. I can't just get a discount for other people.

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  • Christina
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    Christina ·
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    Is it too late to even back out? I agree with @Spirit - this is why you pay for your own things.

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  • MissWtoMrsH
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    MissWtoMrsH ·
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    I would definitely be weirded out by this. Unless a couples honeymoon was planned from the beginning, I would have to say something or just decline the offer.

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  • Lorith
    Master May 2016
    Lorith ·
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    It might not be as bad as you're anticipating. I was terrified that we had 16 people coming with us on our honeymoon but they b mostly let us be.

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  • BeachBride
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    BeachBride ·
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    She is gifting you the points, right? Meaning your hotel stay will be free? Suck it up! It's not like you have the same rooms. Unless you want to pay for your own honeymoon and hurt this relationship.

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  • SailawaySomppi
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    SailawaySomppi ·
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    Is it possible they just decided to go on their own vacation since they were booking in her name. Maybe she has to be there with the point system? Coordinating could be like you said, that they arrive first and check in? Did she specifically say "oh, itll be so fun hanging out all week!" If not, I think youre overthinking this. They probably dont want to hang around with you on their vacation either.

    We will have lots of people we know on our honeymoon including my future step son....if I see them around the ship we will stop, have a drinks, say hi... but we are doing our own thing whether those people are around or not. Just be gracious and say hi and thank you when you bump into them

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  • Fitz
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    As others have mentioned, she may be required to go. She paid and you accepted, so this is what you're stuck with. Maybe talk to her and let her know that it'll be nice to see her at check in, but you're not sure how much time you two will want to spend with others and you are excited to tell her all about it after the trip?

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  • M
    Super November 2016
    MBP2000 ·
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    I wouldn't be happy but I'd get some more details from her. Start off by saying "I didn't know you were going on a trip... To the same hotel?" So strange! See what she says... And then in the nicest way possible, say you were hoping to have a trip were it was just you and FH....

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  • MayBride
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    It's weird that she didn't make that clear up front, but it may not be that bad. You guys are going to be on your honeymoon so no one can get too mad if you shut your phones off and isolate yourselves. Maybe get one breakfast or dinner with them, and then get lost.

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    Soon ToBe MrsJohnson ·
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    I contacted her in a gracious, respectful manner and acted mildly surprised that she'd be at the hotel as well. Turns out they are not gonna stay for long. And the plus side is that she'll be there in case there are any problems at check in. I expressed my gratitude again and the conversation ended amicably.

    I guess I just freaked out for a second.

    Thanks to all those who understood my mini vent/panic and actually offered advice or shared an experience.

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  • RiceAndRoses
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    RiceAndRoses ·
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    Glad it worked out @Soon ToBe Mrs Johnson Smiley smile

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  • Kristen
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    Yay (: I glad you got a happy ending on that one!

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  • A
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    Along10 ·
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    I gasped when I first read this because that would be a really sucky situation. But I'm so happy you got it all squared away! Have a happy honeymoon Smiley smile

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  • T&T Mrs C
    Master August 2016
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    I'm with A-Lynn going oh no. I'm so glad that they aren't staying long and you and FH can focus on you two.

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  • Lorith
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    Glad everything worked out!

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  • Melissa
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    Melissa ·
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    Nope.

    Eta: sorry, read the update. Glad it worked out!

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