Use the gifts?

If you're going to host a virtual shower, I would put them aside until then so you have gifts to open at your e-party. If you're going to conpletely cancel, then go ahead and open, use, and send thank you cards for them.

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Hmm.. a Virtual shower, didn't think of that!

thanks Jeni!

So my shower is planned for June; my mom is still planning it. I think she is super excited about it and I can't seem to talk her into rescheduling to July at least. But I received a standing kitchen aid mixer yesterday; I sent out a thank you note to them this morning. My mom wants to bring it to the shower but I'm thinking I may take a picture of it wrap the picture in a frame and bring it with. The mixer is heavy and my SUV isn't the biggest so having to bring that along with any other gifts home that my friends and family bring along with a huge mixer seems like a disaster waiting to happen. If my shower gets rescheduled I don't think I can wait that long to use my mixer lol, I love to bake so that would be hard for me to wait that long. Willing to wait till June for when my shower is supposed to happen but July will be stretching it.

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Same here, I asked my mom to hold on to the invites, but she sent them anyway lol

Love the idea of a picture in a frame!

Good luck to you!!

My parents received a package from my registry that was sent to them (their address is what I had on my registry to directly send presents). They received it back in February, with my shower supposed to be in March. I guess that guest could not come to my original bridal shower, so they sent the package. Anyway, my mom gave the package to me last week, saying that she was supposed to give it during my bridal shower. I did open it, and I'm planning to send a Thank You card soon, because honestly, I don't know if a bridal shower is even happening at this point.

View Quoted Comment Yea...I've decided to just use them...I have sent Thank you cards as well...
Next up is trying to stay calm with impending wedding postponement

I would go ahead and use them and start sending thank you cards as they come. At this point, waiting for the Go/No Go, is like waiting for ice to melt in the Arctic. Useless.... Enjoy your gifts!

If you plan to still go through with your shower or have a virtual shower, I'd say wait. But if you are definitely not having a shower, I'd say open them and send thank yous asap.

The etiquette is that you're supposed to open the gift to make sure that it arrived intact, thank the giver, and then put the gift aside and not use it until after the wedding. That's because if the wedding doesn't take place you need to return the gifts, unused.

People bought them for you to use, so I would use them and go ahead and send out thank-yous as well.

"If the wedding doesn't take place you need to return the gift" ......what?? How outrageous!

I would say if you've sent out thank you cards then its fine. My fiance is very particular wants everything new for when we move to our forever home so I haven't used any of my gifts yet

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Why would that be outrageous. They're gifts given in expectation of and celebration of your wedding. You call off the wedding, you give back the gift. To do otherwise would be rude.

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I thought you meant that if someone eloped because of COVID, then they had to return their gifts because they didn't have a wedding. I see that's not what you meant.