Hi ladies! I'm just a m.o.b. looking for some clarification on the role of ushers vs groomsmen. My daughter is utilizing this role in her wedding and in my day, the groomsmen did the ushering. So whenever she asked her only sibling to be an usher, I assumed he was being included in the actual wedding party and so did he. Now, just months before the wedding, I am finding out that this is not what she intended. He is not part of the wedding party or included in any special attire, just going to seat guests, including me, and take a seat during the ceremony. He is crushed and I can't say I'm not a little disappointed or hurt by the gesture. Especially since the groom is having 5 family members in the party, bride has one sibling and he is not included. Yes, this is causing some hurt feelings especially by dad and I who are contributing a large portion of the wedding costs. Is this a customary role nowadays? To me, it sounds like a less than important job you'd give to a young cousin...