Vendor refused

I believe I had one vendor respond to me that way when I told them our budget.

I haven't but I can see someone saying that. For example, If you were requesting a specific type of music and the musician didn't have much experience with that. Or even an officiant may not feel comfortable with certain religious backgrounds. I can definitely see why it might be said.

We wanted a particular florist in our area, and I contacted them about 15 months out from the wedding about a rough estimate. sent photos, filled out the question application, etc. They came back to us and told us they could not give accurate quotes until 6 months out because the prices of flowers change. Ok...so we contacted others and eventually settled on our flower plans to DIY from Sams Club. Fast forward in planning, the florist emailed us about 6 months out asking if we still wanted a quote, we figured...sure...why not see what they have to say? After I re-filled all of their paper-work out and emailed her back same day, she responded that our date had already been taken and they didn't think they'd be a great fit for our wedding anyhow because they'd have to drive 45 minutes to our location opposed to the other wedding on our date that they booked in town and they only had 1 delivery truck. I thought that was so shady to even try to double book, and I'm confident we wanted the date first, and the other wedding was likely more expensive than what we were looking for. Everything worked out, and it will for you too! You don't want a vendor at your wedding who doesn't want to be there either!

No but honestly I’d be thankful if they did.


Our venue originally looked way out of budget for us and we told them that, and were about to leave but they told us they could work with our budget and convinced us to stay.
Throughout the entire process (after we put down our deposit of course) up through the day of the wedding, we felt they were treating us like second class citizens because we weren’t spending as much as they would’ve hoped. The coordinator didn’t show up to our rehearsal so I had to run it on my own, then rushed us out of our rehearsal because there was another wedding coming in IN AN HOUR. They “forgot” the candles I asked for. They denied having told us that we could put a limit on the consumption bar. I was supposed to have a bridal attendant help me out on the wedding day and no one ever showed up. They flat out asked me if I’d be willing to give up the bridal suite (which I had already paid for) for another bride. Things like that.
I REALLY wish they had just told us that they weren’t the right fit for our budget and allowed us to go elsewhere. I don’t blame them for not being happy about making as much money off us as they did on most weddings, but if that was going to be the case they should’ve let us walk away to begin with!

As long as it isn’t discriminatory, I wouldn’t have a problem with it.

I did in the beginning. After the third failed communication in one two weeks, I decided to hire someone new.

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Oh man, something similar happened with us and the videographer! We didn't want one for the longest time, but later into planning we realized we could afford one for a few hours so we shopped around hoping someone would fit our small budget and be willing to film our ceremony and cut a video to it. We found a company who was willing to do 2 hours for $600, once we agreed they invoiced us for $1000 saying their prices went up. We argued that they needed to honor the quote, so they did. Wedding day came, they were quiet, filmed in the background as our photographer took over and after the ceremony they came up to me and said "the two hours is up and I see an envelope back there with my name on it, can I just grab it on my way out?" we said sure and off they went. They delivered our film to us 3 days later, it was gorgeous but they never posted about our film on their social media accounts as they do with others, they made a 2019 post about their couples and we were not included, etc. I guess because we didn't pay for a full service, we don't "count". Oh well.

View Quoted Comment Ugh that’s so obnoxious! At least they did a good job on the video.

I’m a violinist and people have made some crazy requests of me that I am uncomfortable with or that I know won’t work at all. Or sometimes they don’t want to pay me/want me to do it way below my rate which is already low. so I have to tell them no.

View Quoted Comment Oh, I totally understand that. But in this instance we were only asking for information.

View Quoted Comment Do you think it was discriminatory?

View Quoted Comment I don’t know. I sent as much information about us as I could.

View Quoted Comment I really hope that isn't it. Regardless, better to know now they aren't worth your time and money. Onwards and upwards!

I had a florist be exceptionally rude about our budget. I would have appreciated it if they had said straight out that they weren't the right fit, instead of routinely quoting us double our budget.

We also had a few venues that did NOT react well to our planned swordfight (even though we opened with "trained actors, do this for a living"). That was more hilarious than anything else, though.

I've had that happen a few times either due to our budget or because they didn't "service the area".

I haven't, but my SIL had run into some issues with a few vendors which may be because they were opposed to a same sex wedding. They didn't say it of course, but it was between the lines.