Venmo bachelorette party, fun idea or tacky?

I personally don't see an issue with it. You're not forcing anyone to do anything for you by just posting a venmo. People who disagree can have their opinion and move on.

I love it! The people who see it as tacky simply won't send you any money. Meanwhile, the people who see it and think it's cute will send you a few bucks! You can't lose.

I recommend you ask a bridesmaid to take a pic of it and post it on IG, so friends and friends of friends might see and send some cash your way… I saw a friend of mine post her bachelorette venmo on IG and sent $10 saying the first drink is on me! I think it's a cute way to celebrate and honestly, people love to give when they can.

View Quoted Comment I was thinking the same thing. Our generation is always the punching bag for those older than us. I don't get it. I have nothing but love for the generations younger than me. I know they're going to help change the world.



I agree it's not tacky. No one is forcing people to venmo you. It's most likely other people around the same age that are like yeah! Go get a drink!

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I agree that this comes off as a 'Go Fund Me' for your bachelorette though it is not too flashy or in your face so I think this teeters the line of being acceptable for that reason only.

Personally however, I wouldn't be contributing to it if I saw it - neither myself nor anyone I know have been in the financial position where we could just spend money recklessly such as by sending money to a stranger.

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Exactly. I first saw the idea on social media and it was from a younger bride and I thought to myself: "oh wow that's actually pretty smart!". I like how with the QR code/Venmo, I can scan it and send the bride a few bucks and go about my way, whereas without it, I'd have to stand at the bar and wait until the bride gets her drink and that takes time away from me and my friends on our outing.

Like I said in a previous comment, OP will get a mixed bag when it comes to opinions, so what matters is how she feels about it!

If I was back in my young days of partying it up, I’d do it!
Ok let me think of a cute hashtag for my old lady bach trip #buymemotrin #sendcatfood #brunchNnap

If you want to do it, go for it. If someone you don't know thinks its rude or tacky... so what? If people want to help celebrate and give you money to drink, why not? You aren't demanding anything of anyone. And to be fair, bachelor/ette parties are the definition of TACKY. I'd rather a QR code than an inappropriate necklace made of male genitals being flashed around. The world evolves. Bachelorette parties weren't a thing until recently in history. Do what you want in good health and safety. There are no rules to this stuff anymore.

I find this incredibly tacky.

I saw a photo of a car with venmo for bachelorette in the wedding shaming subreddit today. There were lots of snide remarks, and some in support. I think it's a mixed crowd out there. In my opinion, when you get to begging for money for an optional event it seems less than classy. You're not a charity.

Okay, so since someone mentioned "safety" I feel the need to point something out here:

Putting a sign on the vehicle you are in that says THIS IS A CAR FULL OF FEMALES IN VARIOUS STATES OF INTOXICATION is not safe.

I know people do this all the time with bachelorette/bride-to-be signs. That doesn't make it safe or smart. That's how you get someone who knows exactly what car to linger around.

I also don't think giving total strangers your Venmo info is safe. And plenty of cybersecurity experts agree with me on that one.

Now, you asked for opinions on whether or not it's tacky. I personally think it is. And I think there is a difference between sitting in a bar and someone at the bar saying "I'll cover a drink for the bride-to-be over there", and driving a car around town that says "send me money!"

But penis crowns and staggering out of a bar so drunk you throw up in a storm drain are also tacky, and I've seen those plenty of times. So, the question is, does it really matter? I don't think it does. I think what matters is the comfort of those involved. If everyone is on board with penis crowns, then whether or not it's tacky is irrelevant.

That said, I will reiterate that I don't think it's the safest thing to do, for the reasons I mentioned above. Consider having a better control over who can access that code (translation: don't put it on your car that everyone can see. Having a "I'm a bride, buy me a drink!" shirt and then a card or decal with a QR code people can scan is far safer than having it plastered on you car that is out in public where anyone can see it.)

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Agree with this 100%

View Quoted Comment Eniale, that was beautifully said!! 👏

Your comparisons are rather bizarre. I woul never party with the sort of person who would wear lewd and crude sexual items, or step out of a limo to throw up in a storm drain. Never have, never will. I do think a hosted party should be paid by the participants, or by people who know them. And I do think raising money from strangers should be reserved for medical emergencies,or disasters, not buying drinks.I hate that this model of celebrating completely eliminates the personal gift for the random chunk of money given the group

And yes, tacky , tacky, tacky.

I personally love it! I saw a few cars with the writing on them while on vacation in Gatlinburg and thought it was a genius idea. I actually sent pictures to my brother (he’s my “Man of Honor”) and asked him if we could do it for my bachelorette party. Lol I see no harm in it. I think it’s cute and definitely safer than taking a drink from a stranger in a bar. I say make a separate Venmo/Cashapp account to be used for this purpose only and do it!

View Quoted Comment But I would never do that, starting with the Bachelorette
stuff. When I would I was too young for. It or marriage.