Vent: Are you kidding me

The only silver lining is that the OP may be receiving a wake up call. No token gifts for BMs, a venue that cancelled her contract because her aged grandmother's $500 deposit check bounced, a need to DIY the food for 150 guests. and $350 allocated for alcohol for all of those people? She can probably do a nice wedding for 25 guests. She wants a big wedding with 150 guests, yet it's pretty clear that she cannot finance type of weddomg in the near future, She'll have to make a choice.

Guys...I don't think OP read past page 5...after the bridesmaid post and now this I have a feeling she left WW. I get it though....she didn't want to give her bridal party a token of appreciation and wanted us all to say "hey thats ok" but we didn't. And then she gets her panties all in bunch about a venue doing EVERYTHING within their legal limits due a bounced check that she took from grannie and we all tell her that she's wrong. Totally not coming back. Its a shame too, I was liking her posts for the ridiculousness of them

I kinda was too, Maltese!

Oh, Maltese, I'm sure there are many more in line to take her place, lol!

True true!!! For some reason I found the naivety of her as a person in her mid 30s as very endearing and felt a bit of sympathy towards her for it...I just think its obvious that she grew up a sheltered person...

Wow I missed a lot with the other threads then lol. This makes the granny check thing so much worse.

I'm not a troll ,whatever that is !

Oh and for the record , the $350 budget that i mentioned for alcohol is what our bartender we booked told us that is about what we would spend on alcohol and etc we needed. Actually he only said $300 with everything on the list but I bumped it up to $350 to get extra .

Please don't judge someone if you don't all the details . MOVING ON HAVE A GREAT DAY AND LEAVE ME ALONE ABOUT THIS !

@FMK (thats short for FutureMrsKing):

A troll is a person who comes on the forums creating threads with certain controversial topics for the sheer reason of starting drama and stirring up chaos...some people find them interesting some dont care for them at all. Personally, I love them. The two topics you chose for your first threads did exactly that, so thats why people are calling you that.

Don't leave the forums just because you posted threads or opinions that others disagreed with...this a public forum on the INTERNET...there are bound to be differences of opinions and negativity...so you can't be upset when people disagree with you on certain topics. If I left every time I posted something others didn't like or agree with I would have run out of wedding forums but now. Its bound to happen...but you may be having an argument with one poster in one thread and in another that very same person is defending you on another attack or disagreement you're in.

Sure...the grammar attack was probably in poor taste. But again, this is the internet....don't let two threads that didn't go how you expected them to put a sour taste in your mouth..

@maltese is right, this is the interwebs

I never left ! I have read every single comment that was posted and brushed it off. I just decided it wasn't a need for me to continue to go back and fourth with people that don't know me in real life. I admitted to my mistakes, I never pointed fingers at anyone (venue) . The venue has already been taking care of , after I talk to the manager I only had to pay the $40.00 for the return check.

It just really bothers me that people judge others based on a short version of details . I rather a person ask questions and I go into more detail than make fun or judge me. I'm 100% sure I'm not the only bride on WW that is on a budget and have done DIY to save money. I'm planning a wedding that I can afford, that comment did really bothered me. I'm planning for 150 but maybe half will only come, since 40% of our guest are from OOT . My FH is from Chicago and the wedding will be in LA because I have a bigger family . We are only inviting immediately family and friends , not a lot of friends. As of today our budget is $6k but we are working towards more if need be for those last-minute things that come up. FH took out a 2nd job at Target and I'm working overtime sometimes doubles so we can put money toward the wedding . Our wedding party consist of very close family and friends that have been there for us. I have been in two weddings and never received a gift then I noticed it on the budget tool that's why I asked if it was necessary . Every QUESTION I asked was just that a QUESTION. I listened to the advice,suggestions,ideas and re-arranged my budget. Everything that we choose to do (DIY Food, No cake ) is a personal choice.

Also, the comments about my grandmother are so un-called for , we are all human and make mistakes. If one person say they haven't , they are so lying. My spelling , grammar , and writing might not be as great as others since I do have Dyslexia and Dysgraphia . It's already a everyday struggle but I try and make the best out of it.

Again...this IS an internet forum and yes, not all the details are given. But long explanation short: a person has to have thick skin to play here (and any forum). Not everyone is going to be nice all the time. And yes, some of the snarky comments can hurt but what what you will hear here is the stuff that your friends and family may not want to tell you because it may be too blunt.

You're a DIY Bride...thats fine. There's nothing wrong with that and there ARE a lot on this site. You're doing the food...great (just please don't make it a potluck reception, its tacky). No cake? Big deal...I hate cake and am now thinking about not doing it as well. As for the comments about your grandmother...I don't think ANY were meant to be harmful towards her and the posters took a stance that looked out for her. But I get it, you can't tell old people what to do with their money...and I already told you what I thought about the spelling/grammar comments.

LA and $300 for alcohol? Are you SURE that isn't just the bartender fee? Look, if you're on a budget, then whatever, lots of girls here are on budgets. But I spent $250 on alcohol in ONE NIGHT out with the girls here in DC, where the cost of living is expensive and similar to LA. There is NO WAY that your alcohol is only $300 for an estimated 150 people. That's $2 per person in alcohol for the night. That's assuming that each drink is $2 or less!

What you have been quoted is mathematically impossible. Not even if you purchased the alcohol wholesale yourself.

FMK, I need your bartender. We are getting married in the LA area as well. Our lowest quote (cocktail and reception for 350 guests was $4,000) Please confirm with your bartender thst includes alcohol.

I live in Omaha Nebraska and the cheapest we've seen here for limited beer and wine would be $7-$9 per person. It's safe to say costs here are a lot less than in LA. Not trying to be rude but I would double check with your bartender on that estimate and make sure he wasn't talking about corking fees or the actual cost of having the bartender(s). As someone who has been a bartender I can tell you $350 is not going to get you very far for 150 people. It won't get you very far for 100 people. That's what a single keg can run depending on what beer you were to buy.

(I've just been observing, but jumping in here) I agree, this $350 is just for the bartender, not the alcohol. Our bartender fee is $400, just for him. Then the alcohol on top of that. Ours is $9 a person x's our 150 people is $1350. And here in Texas, costs are considerably cheaper than in LA. So double & triple check that the $350 covers the alcohol too, because I can 99% guarantee that it doesn't.

The bartender fee is $200.00 for 1 bartender. We are estimated atleast 100 will actually come but we are inviting 142 as of today . The alcohol cost is based on only vodka,tequila, rum, beer with the fixins. The alcohol is coming from

www.beveragewarehouse.com they told us to buy 2 (1.75 L) of each bottle and it won't be premium liquor .

Breakdown

Vodka 17.95 x 2 = 35.90

Tequila 18.95 x 2 = 37.90

Rum 19.95 x 2 = 39.98

Liquor Total 113.78

Budlight 12pk 9.95 x 5 = 49.75

Budweiser 12 pk x 5 = 49.75

Beer Total $99.50

So far $213.28 and that doesn't include the sprite,coke,cranberry juice, lemons and what not. So even if I was to get 3 of each bottles of liquor it's still under $350.00 .

You need to take into account that most people drink around 2 drinks during the first hour and about a drink per hour after that. I really don't think you realize just how quickly you'll run through this amount of liquor and beer with 150 people.

FH & I go through a 12 pack in 2 evenings, work evenings at that. Just us. 2 people. Parties? Much more. And while some people won't have any drinks, some people will go overboard and have 10.

That's not enough. There are 41 standard drinks per bottle of liquor. That's a total of 246 drinks for your six bottle. That's ~1.5 drinks per person. The average person drinks about 1 drink per hour at a wedding (this accounts for those who don't drink at all and those who go 3 sheets to the wind on an open bar). I know you have beer, too, but not everyone likes beer (and god, especially not Bud).

But even with the beer, you're only at ~2.5 drinks per person.

If your wedding reception is 4 hours, you should have enough supply for 600 drinks. And the fact that your bartender didn't know that would worry me.

You are only buying 120 beers for 150 people? That's Definitly not enough... And the liquor will go fast too. You may run out before dinner is served.

Have you found a new venue yet?