Vent: People who threaten not to attend your wedding

Haha! Some people are so self involved. i don't know how many times I've thought...out wedding is not about you!

I wish more of the family we felt obligated to invite would threaten not to come. Good riddance!

I would laugh in someone's face if they threatened not to come to our wedding. As if your wedding is going to be ruined by their non-attendance? Please! Lol! The only thing I will say in this particular situation is that sometimes people make an exception to the no-kids rule for nursing infants. You don't have to, of course...it's up to you. But that may be why they were expecting you to bend on that rule.

Miss E said it the best. Don't get into these discussions. Your party, your guest list.

Believe If i could that particular set of his family members I would. Also everyone gets the same response regardless "We appreciate their excitement at celebrating our special day with us but unfortunately because of spacing issues and budget concerns our guest list is very limited, we appreciate your understanding".

I am having an adults-only wedding as well and am having trouble deciding what to do about out-of-town guests. Are you providing a baby sitter during the wedding?

This also has been adults only since we began planning, their accidental pregnancy happened well after that decision. I don't feel hooking up in his parents garage (where he is currently living since he flat out refuses to get a job) while she was cheating on her fiance (who happened to be the father of her previous boyfriend) and popping out a child who is on formula because she can't breast feed due to methadone and several other medications she is taking because of her multiple drug addictions, gives her special treatment to attend with her child when other very responsible friends and family members have made arrangements for their young children.

Sorry if that seems harsh but we all deal with the consequences of our choices, they have to make decisions based on theirs.

@Ashley all of our out-of-town guests are childless or have fully grown adult children. All of the local ones that have kids are leaving them with family members or have secured the services of baby sitters.

That is hilarious. Why on earth would she think that would make a difference. Lol my favorite cousin had a sweet little boy almost 2 months ago and she knows that she can't bring him. I thought her mom would stay home to baby sit but she oh no we got a sitter we will be at your wedding. They firmly believe that funerals and weddings are no place for babies anyway.

So dramatic. Consider it a few less people to stress you out and take away the happiness of your day!

I'm completely with you in saying no to her and shrugging off the threat.

I don't think it's necessary to follow that up with a post of scathing judgment about her and her choices. You don't need to dig deep into negativity to justify your answer of "no"

I feel for you on this....had a similar threat thrown at me over the holidays....only because I wasn't inviting a step-relative I have not seen in over 15 years and whose wife I haven't even met. The awkward thing is the threateners are my uncle and aunt - and my cousin, my uncle's daughter, is in the wedding.

In my experience, people who threaten not to attend (we have had many) usually are not people you reallly want there in the first place. We are having an adult only ceremony and reception as well. A cousin that I am not close to at all (she has been in and out of jail for the past 20+ years) threatened to not attend. Oh well. An invitation is not a subpoena. You don't have to threaten not to come. Just don't come.

IMO, if you are someone who would consider threatening to not come then I probably don't want you there at all so by all means follow through!

Ugggh moving on. Folks have some nerve.

Consider yourself lucky. I'm sure you can just imagine what her behavior could be like, if she attended your wedding and had some alcoholic beverages.

Why do they want to bring the baby? I mean yes I get it your child is only small once and they grow so fast but you think they would want a break! Both my bro and sis have 4 year olds and when I told them no kids they were happy to get a sitter! Lol

I agree with KitAndKaboodle- "In my experience, people who threaten not to attend (we have had many) usually are not people you really want there in the first place. "

My own experience confirmed that. I had some *ahem* family members try to play games after the RSVP deadline, so I straight up dis-invited them. Problem solved.

Lovebubbles-- are you sure you want to marry into this family? Just askin'...

I really don't get it. Why would you invite people to your wedding if you don't want them there in the first place?

We're letting kids come. No big deal to us, the people we're inviting are responsible enough to either get a sitter if they want to drink to the point of drunkenness, or stay sober enough to care for their kids. That said, the only person we are inviting that we really don't want there is my mother, solely because my Dad wouldn't even consider coming without her.