Vent Session: What's stressing you out right now?

My biggest stressor is MIL. She doesn't work, so she literally spends her days texting me PARAGRAPHS of things I need to do or her opinion while I'm working...

We don't have a set honeymoon yet and that kinda stresses me out. We wanted to go to London but we've been looking into other options that work in case we don't have enough money. Also, trying to decide what to do for a photographer. I love taking photos so part of me wishes I could do it but since I'm getting married, I can't really do that lol

OMG! How did you know I was stressed. I found my decorator and her charging price $3,300 which is really reasonable so I'm happy but at the same time after calculating bills my mind is still wondering how am I going to get all this paid off. I'm a year out and the only thing I have done is my venue booked. I still need to pay my decorator off, find a caterer, find a DJ, and get alcohol. I'm getting overwhelmed and it is causing tension between my FH and I. I haven't found a wedding dress or a cake either. It's almost like how the heck do I get all of this done!!!!

In-laws for sure. They keep asking about details that have already been decided like they're up for their negotiation

It is the week of and I am running around trying to get everything done while also working all week (new job, couldn’t take off a ton of time) and people keep bothering me! A lot of people not making it to the wedding insisting they see us BEFORE the wedding or people who need help with their own stuff. Can’t we deal with this after?! No I cannot be available in the middle of the day on a Tuesday. I’m trying very hard not to be a total brat about it being that most people mean well but I’m just going to have to shut my phone off at this point lol

We are 22 days out and while we have almost all of the big items done I just stress about finding time to finish all the little details without running myself ragged! I just feel like I can't delegate to my bridal party & FMIL because they are all so busy with work and their schedules are the complete opposite of mine.

Definitely RSVP's. My wedding is next week. I set a date of October 1st to have them in. I invited about 75 people and got 4 back. Yes..you read it right, 4. I have a Facebook event page and i've been pretty much begging the ones on there to let me know if they are coming or not. I'm annoyed I spent what I did on postage. It's rude to not send them back. RUDE

I’m stressed about the car accident I had on Friday. Like I have time for that right now.
Min stressed about my bachelorette on Friday. It’s very mellow, paint your own pottery & dinner. Will the ladies be bored? It sounds like a great night to me but MOH, for example, is the least creative/crafty person I know. Will she be miserable?
I'm stressed about RSVPs. Or lack of RSVPs I should say. RSVP date is 10/21 and we’re only at about 50% response rate. We have a website. I listed our wedding email address, and my phone number. How hard is it to use one of them?!
I'm stressed about FMIL. She finally got around to calling my mother and apparently it was a weird conversation. Unsurprising but still annoying.
I’m beyond stressed at work and have no idea how I’m going to get a week+ ahead so I can go on my honeymoon and take off the day before the wedding.

11 months till I get married and still don't have a wedding dress or colors I want our wedding to have. Or what kind of bridemaids dresses I want my girls to wear... Still haven't booked catering or florist (not sure if im doing real or faux) or ordered linens for our tables (but don't know what colors I want to go with)...

My biggest stress is whether or not to invite one girl. She already basically invited herself so my FH feels obligated to invite her. She was also in our college friend group, and the rest of our friends are invited. However she tried to break my FH and I up at least 3 times and she always invites him over to hang out alone (he always says no). When she realized we were getting serious she gave my FH step by step instructions on how to break up with me and completely freaked him out by telling him all these fake things about me. He of course told me and I just laughed and obviously we’re good lol. I was always cordial to her and we were sort of friends because we cheered together and so we were together 20 hours a week. We get along but I just am still mad about some of this. I even let her live at my apartment for free for a while because she needed a place and we were all friends. Today I found out she was telling people she should get an automatic invite because she “set us up” ???? Which Is just comical to me tbh. Usually it would be a definite no but I feel like if we don’t invite her she will just cause sooooooo much drama and I just don’t want to deal with it.

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This right here! Same struggle. We're about to put the deposit in for our venue thankfully, but now I'm stressing about dress, and other vendors. Securing that beautiful fall venue was priority though. Glad you found yours too!

No one is listening to me and what I want. My parent chose to pay for things I didn’t plan on the paying for and this wedding going to be more fancy then I planned.

I can’t keep up with everything!! I have less than 4 weeks until my wedding, a small elopement, no reception ideas whatsoever, my dress alterations are this Sunday, I’m trying to paint a 30x40 for an art show Monday, I’m trying to move into a new apartment this week, I’ve got Zoo Halloween fest volunteering weekend nights this week,

my man hasn’t gotten a suit and we don’t have rings! Let alone invitations or a wedding website up yet!!

Right now, finding a venue to fit our price range is pretty high up there on the stress level. Plus the fact that my family won’t even come to our wedding, although less money I guess but still.

My oldest daughter is a Marine and she is dating a part time Marine. He is very controlling and she isn't seeing this. He is so controlling that when I talk to her about the bridesmaid dresses I would like her and the other BMs to wear she doesn't even respond. She doesn't talk to me right now and it's because of him.

I am REALLY struggling with this as I do NOT want to hurt my daughter or cause waves between us BUT I truly do not want this boy at my wedding. I need my daughter input but I can't get it. I want her in the wedding but she needs to be active and help plan the dresses, makeup, & hair for her and the other BMs. I don't want any last minute hiccups to happen but I have a feeling they will with her not participating at all.

UGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm lost and depressed about how to handle this.

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Girl NO. Do not invite that woman. I am so irked by her actions and that isn't even my life. I would have put her on the Do Not Call list a long time ago. However, I understand that she is attached by mutual friends but her inviting herself is a no go. I would tell FH that he has a great big heart for thinking how he does but this lady crossed the line too many times.

My biggest stress is my health slowing down my planning progress. I ha e permanent nerve damage on the right side of my face and I've had this for 9 years now. On good days - I look like an absolutely normal, productive person although I am still experiencing some pain but very manageable. On bad days - I look like I've had a stroke, and it's like fire and shocks all on that side. Not fun, and it forces me to completely rest, but I deal with it. It's been 9 years like I said. But since Sept 24th, the pain level has been off the roof. I've been to the ER 3 times in the last 2 weeks. Tomorrow I should be thrilled that it will officially be 1 year before we are married...but instead I have to go to my doctor and discuss other completely different treatment options that my neurologist suggested. Until we get this flare up under control, I'm struggling to do normal every day things that people take for granted when all I want to do is work on our wedding diy projects. 😢

My fiance. This whole wedding planning thing (among other things) has really put a strain on our relationship. We do not handle stressful events well and I am PMSing the week of our wedding. (I have PMDD so this a real issue.) We are at each other's throats right now. Ready for this to all be over Saturday.

The cake is stressing me out the most right now. We had a baker lined up, but they couldn't make a simple change (less sweet icing), so I'm making the cake myself. I have years of experience, and part of me just KNEW I would end up making it, but I'm doing everything else, and I just wanted ONE thing done for me.

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If it makes you feel better, I'm 6 months out and just changed my wedding colors, again. Lol We went dress shopping for the bridal party and now my bridesmaids are wearing a different color than I picked. Not to mention I've changed my mind a few times. So it's ok not to know. Plus you always have time to change your mind-unless you buy stuff lol