I need advice and honest opinons. I was enjoying planning my wedding things were coming together beautifully and now I have lost all my self confidence in my ability to choose colors and make decisions. Thanks to my mom (back story my mom is a high functioning alcholic who thinks everything my sister does is the greatest thing in the world and if I do the same thing I am wrong we have been getting along better and she said she wanted to be a part of the wedding planning proccess so I freaking believed her and she freaking goes and hurts me. the big things that happend last night on our phone call
1. she has been telling people that we swtiched the wedding venue to one in Colorado springs when we haven't changed it we are getting married in Fort Collins ( Fort Collins is North next to Wyoming Colorado Springs is southern almost next to New Mexico.)
2. She thinks are Colors are ugly and will clash and look Chaotic. our colors are Diffrent shades of lavender and light blue with cream and champange as accent colors,
3. She doesn't know why I am spending all this money to compete with my sister for the best wedding, My sister got married 10 years ago and there is no comparison at all I am having a wedding that my fiance and I want and trying to stay focoused on what makes me and him happy
4. She thinks we are spending too much money since I have kids I shouldn't have a wedding use the money and put it towards them.
side note ( we have 8 kids and we are doing finacially well. we don't rely on the government, they each have savings account and college fund, all our bills are paid every month we have 7k in savings and our kids have plenty of clothes things for school quite a few toys and a lot of love and attention, we are paying for the wedding with our stimulus checks and tax return.
5. She is asking what our budget it and I keep telling her affordable.
6. She thinks we should do what my dad and her did. we should go to the vfw hall and do a potluck meal with cash bar and we can borrow her stero for music, that is a big hello no
ready for the grand fenalie She doesn't know why I bought a dress that was too small as many as you know I was pregnant at the time and had a still born there is no way I can fit into the dress but I am trying to get skinner, Then she said you should really just loose the weight and than go dress shopping you should get a dress that covers your stomach because the one you tried on it was a mermaid trumpet made you look fat, my fiance is paying for my dress and I have fallen in love with the trumpet,mermaid look.
than she freaking ends the conversation with but its your wedding do what you want. I am in tears now I am questioning my color choices my gown and my ability to choose anyhting for the wedding. please give honest opinions, I have already decided NOT to talk to her. but I just feel defeated