I started organising my bachelorette last year before my wedding + bachelorette were postponed (because of COVID) and an option at the time was to do a 3 night cruise. My friends didn’t love the idea and we decided on instead doing a weekend trip to our local wine region for some winery tasting tours and what not. Recently when we began planning for my bachelorette for this year, I confirmed with the girls if they wanted to do the winery option as decided previously and they said yes.
My BM (who is also family) insisted that I ask my friends again about the cruise option. Other than the fact that I’ve already told the girls that we are on for the wineries (and starting booking things), I told my BM that (a) the idea was previously vetoed (b) it would cost more money (c) it would require the girls to take a day off of work and (d) I didn’t like the idea of doing absolutely nothing but sitting around getting drunk.
My BM kept pressing that I should ‘at least mention’ it to the girls again and every time I pushed back for the reasons set our above, she would go on that ‘[my] friends are boring’, ‘[my] friends don’t know how to have fun’, and that our current plan is ‘too complicated to organise everyone’. I firmly put my foot down and said that this was my wedding and that there was nothing wrong with what I wanted, it was reasonable, and everyone already agreed to it happily.
I’m trying not to dwell on the whole conversation that took place but I’m just so annoyed by the whole disregard of my feelings and what I want. If I make a decision that’s unreasonable or not considerate, please, call me out on my sh&t, but if I’ve made a logical decision that there is nothing wrong with, don’t belittle me and push my buttons to try get me to change my idea when it doesn’t need changing!!
