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Gabby
Devoted October 2021

Venue Confusion

Gabby, on January 6, 2021 at 6:54 PM Posted in Planning 0 18
So we had originally planned to use my FH's church as a venue. It's very old and beautiful. He'd like to get married there if possible, but we're not religious so it's not a deal breaker. For the church we'd have to do every single thing ourselves. I would need to hire a decorator because I don't want to decorate the church myself. Well now we might have to pay 1,000-1,500 to use the space (still waiting on a confirmation) but nothing is included at all. I have been looking at back up venues. We already have a photographer and DJ booked that we are sticking with. I found one that would be $1,000 for the entire 12 hours ceremony and reception included. It also included all linens, centerpieces and decorations they have there, glassware and dishes, and they decorate and tear down. They also allow us to bring in any outside vendors and serve our own alcohol with an insurance policy purchased. They have our date available. I'm just torn. Do I go with the wedding venue that is less stress and honestly sounds like a better deal? I think if I DIY and rent everything myself for the church I might spend more than 1,000 plus a huge stress and headache.

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Latest activity by Violetstorme, on January 7, 2021 at 10:38 PM
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    My brother got married at a church and their florist provided all decor for the ceremony. The reception was held at a separate venue and she also provided the decor for that as well. They made a donation to the church in order to use the church for the ceremony. I think it is pretty common that the bride and groom provide decor for church ceremonies.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    If you are not religious, don't get married in a church. $1000 is not cheap either for a church. Plus they have many restrictions. Find a nice venue you can use for ceremony and reception. $1000 in that case is a steal and the DIY venue is much more economical and less stress. You can get restaurant catering inexpensive and delicious.
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    I think most venues I would have to provide the decor. So I liked that this new venue included decor for me to use.
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    It's a liberal unitarian church so thankfully they're very welcoming. I'm just worried about the stress of finding the rentals myself, making all the decor myself, and then decorating myself. The ceilings are very tall so I have to have a decorator come in and that will run me several hundred alone. I thought the idea of 1,000 for most things I could want included was a steal.
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Unfortunately, not all venues provide decor. Ours would have provided centerpieices, but we would've had to pay extra. I wanted to also add that every church wedding I've been have only hosted the ceremony at the church and then had the reception at a separate location. I think the decision has to be made based more on feelings than money. I think the question that needs to be asked is just how important is getting married at the church to your fiancé? If you'd get married somewhere else would he later regret not having at least the ceremony at the church?

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Does the non-religious venue have tables and chairs? If so then you are set and don't need too much else. Contact a florist on thumbtack.com in your budget or do LED candles which can be reused at home.


    No one looks at the ceilings so don't stress over that.
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
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    He is very logic minded and as long as it saves us some money and I'm happy he's happy 😂 we're atheist and he works at the unitarian church. They've started to become a family but he feels not religious ties at all. The only thing I will miss is the organ tbh. This is a very very laid back church.
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
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    The new venue comes with basically everything we could want including centerpieces to choose from and a photo booth that I just found out about. The only thing I'd need is bring in a caterer (I already found one) and bring in alcohol and a bartender. I just thought 1,000 was an amazing deal, especially in our area.
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    Hannah Online ·
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    Renting everything will absolutely cost way more than $1000. I would go with the other venue. Is the other venue pretty? Do you like it? Or is the only thing going for it the price?
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
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    It's very nice! It has outdoor and indoor locations and they do a great job decorating it. I was thinking the same thing. It'll cost close to that much just to rent everything I need and then making and decorating will take alot of time.
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    Hannah Online ·
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    I don't know where you're located, but renting chairs, tables, linens, glass/silverware, decor, and a photobooth will easily cost more than $1000. Hell, photobooth alone in my area cost $1000 for a 4 hour rental.
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  • Yasmine
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    I would definitely go with the all inclusive one
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    I'm in Louisville, KY and yes it definitely costs more than that normally! I'm just talking myself into it more 😂 We've scheduled a time to go tour now


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  • Michelle
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    That sounds like a great deal
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Ohhhhh I absolutely love Louisville!
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  • Gabby
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    It's an amazing city! I just moved here a few months ago and I've only been able to experience COVID Louisville 🥺
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    My friend from University who lives in louisville just got married last month. He exhanged vows with his bride in a museum free of charge and only had 2 witnesses and the officiant there. Afterwards, they went out to eat. They had a friend who did photography part time. They spent a total of less than $1,000 on everything.
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  • Violetstorme
    Dedicated October 2022
    Violetstorme ·
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    If you go with a church know they have a lot of restrictions. They generally don't allow alcohol for one, so if you're wanting to have any alcohol you wouldn't be able to more than likely (which it sounds like you do). That's the most common complaint I've heard about for church weddings. Is there one you're liking more than the other and does it fit in your budget for whichever you choose?

    You should ultimately do what you feel is best. If you're worried about doing the planning, you could always look at having a wedding planner as they'll take care of details for you like coordinating with the decorating and clean up staff, helping with coordinating day of such as appointments, etc. Their prices will generally depend on how much you're wanting them to help you, some will even do just day of if you want to take care of everything yourself and just let someone else take the reigns day of.

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