Hello
My brother is getting married in Toronto, and I haven't spoken to him in a while because I live in Korea.
My boyfriend and I (and my little dog) flew from Seoul to New York to Toronto for my sister's wedding, and it cost us $8,000 in airfare alone. The invitation to the wedding was sent by my brother through his gf at the urging of my parents. It was an insincere invitation, but I gave in.
My parents said we could stay at his Condo guesthouse, but suddenly yesterday when we arrived in New York, He messaged to me was " find a place to stay asap "..because we have a dog It is so sudden for us to find the place to stay for 3 nights. But my bro replied said there are many dog friendly hotels in Toronto, and said "I don't know what you want me to do".
He didn't even say thank you for traveling so far. I feel like all my hard work has been ignored, and I don't know what to do. Is it too selfish of me to want at least a gesture of apology for not being able to book the hotel for us? Honestly, I don't want to go to a wedding after being treated like that, but my parents tell me I'm in the wrong. It would be a different story if at least my sister had shown me gratitude and apology.
By the way, they are getting married at the Shangri-La in Toronto. We are in Ny now, planned to go to toront this weekend.
In Western Culture, Who is responsible to pay for hotel for this situation?
In this situation, how much gift money I should prepare if I decided to go.
Please advise.