Long story short, to honor my Vietnamese heritage, we are going to do the pouring of tea for our parents and grandparents in place of a sand/candle unity. In my research, no one has given specific details on how other wedding couples have incorporated this into their western ceremony. Traditionally, the pouring of tea is signifies the wedding couple's gratitude for raising us, and in a sense, parent/gparents acceptance of the wedding couple; families coming together as one.... my research shows that traditionally the tea is done after the bling (FMIL gives and adorns jewelry to the bride, and G also gives jewelry). To be clear, the only jewelry exchange will be our rings.
So, WW, I need you help:
- We could pour tea BEFORE rings and vows.
- We could pour tea AFTER rings, but then when would we do vows (I thought vows are done during ring exchange?).