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Vow Renewal

Maude, on September 27, 2019 at 4:28 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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So, I’m actually using wedding wire as a means of planning a 5 year vow renewal... our wedding didn’t go as planned and was ruined by some family conflict. Would it be wrong to have a vow renewal with only our previous bridesmaids and groomsmen? They are our closest friends and supporters... it’s also not that we are fighting with our family, because we are not. We simply don’t wish to invite them because of conflict going on within my husbands family that is making it impossible to have everyone happily together. I just want to enjoy this day and have a memory we can cherish forever. I don’t mean to disrespect or hurt anyone’s feelings. Are we wrong?😕

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Latest activity by Tara, on September 29, 2019 at 8:39 AM

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Amber · on September 27, 2019 at 4:31 PM
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Absolutely nothing wrong with it. I would just tell your family you wanted a very simple renewal ceremony with just your past wedding party, that shouldn't offend anyone if they're reasonable. Otherwise, that's not your fault! I say go for it
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on September 27, 2019 at 4:32 PM
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Nothing wrong with that at all, in fact it's kind of cute
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on September 27, 2019 at 4:36 PM
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You’re not obligated to include anyone that you don’t want there.
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Devoted December 2019
Jocelyn · on September 27, 2019 at 4:52 PM
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You Do not need to have anyone there that would ruin your happiness! Sometimes you need to tell yourself it is your day! and you don't need to please others! I too am having family drama with my FH sister, so i understand where you are coming from. Plan the renewal for you guys to be happy, not to please others. Its your day and you deserve a drama free renewal.
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Ivy ORP · on September 27, 2019 at 4:59 PM
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Whether it's your wedding or a vow renewal, you invite who you want there to support you. If family doesn't understand you wanted a small celebration with just your wedding party, that is on them, not you. Enjoy your planning and your celebration.
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Cristy · on September 27, 2019 at 6:10 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with that!! Sometimes, you have to cut the drama/toxicity out of your life, even if it's family.
You and your husband plan the vow renewal that you want. Don't be pressured by family to do things the way they want. If you are questioned about your decision, simply state that you and your husband want a very intimate gathering of your closest friends to celebrate your 5 years of marriage. Leave it at that. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
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Savvy June 2020
Maude · on September 27, 2019 at 7:00 PM
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Thank you, everyone! You’ve definitely given me the confidence to do what I want with this vow renewal! Just so sick of everyone getting offended all the time🙄 but, as many of you have stated, it’s not my problem how they take it! I don’t mean any harm and it’s my day, so I’ll do what I think best. Thanks so much guys! I feel much better about my decision now.
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Dedicated July 2020
Bailey · on September 28, 2019 at 4:51 PM
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Absolutely not! This is your peaceful do-over. You deserve to enjoy the day without any stress over familial conflict.
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Tara · on September 29, 2019 at 8:39 AM
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I’m also doing a Vow renewal in March 2020 for our 20 year anniversary. I think the best part of the Vow renewal is that it’s all about What you guys want. It’s a redo of everything you didn’t enjoy about your previous wedding! I’m going big but getting rid of allot of the things that Were a pain at our previous wedding which I too did not enjoy! I hired a wedding planner to handle it all. No bridal party just us and the kids! It’s your day and it’s a redo do whatever make you happy
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