Vow to a step daughter

Following because I want to do the same for my step Daughter! What has helped me is writing down memories we have had together that sum up our relationship and using those moments to kind of build the vows. Maybe try something like that?

There is a viral video right now about a step mom reading to her step son during the ceremony. I am sure you would be able to find it and maybe get inspo from there.

My brother and SIL are a blended family. Both had 2 kids from previous marriages and they got married back in Jan. They got the 3 girls a special locket necklace and my nephew his first 'real' watch. Both my brother and SIL said vows to the kids to always be a family and to love with alk their hearts. It was super sweet. So yes, I have seen this done. However I can not for the life of me remember the wording they used. I would suggest google and Pinterest may be your friends here. You may be able to find a poem or something that expresses what you are wishing to say and you can tweak to fit your soecific scenario. Good luck!!

My blended families use these kinds of vows all the time. They are usually said after the wedding vows and ring exchange. Talk with your officiant about what you'd like to express. It sounds like you have already written the first part of your family vows. "(Stepdaughter's name), I am not the best with words but I have a full heart of love for you and your Dad......"

Some key ideas might center around the fact that you are not replacing anyone rather you want to build your own special relationship between her and you. Also consider stating your vow to love, accept, protect, guide and respect your new addition. Best wishes!

P.S. When referring to the biological mother say birth mother instead of "real" mother.

My brother did this (and later adopted my niece). He gave her a necklace and promised to always love her, take care of her, and be there for her whenever and however she needed it. My niece still wears the necklace and intends to use it as her "something old" when she gets married.

As far as when to do it, I'd do it right after you and your husband exchange rings. Since that's your outward symbol of commitment, it's fitting to give her one then too.

You don't need a long speech or fancy words for this. She's only 8. She'll love you just for the gesture!

I thought of sitting down eye level when I convey my love to her and my vows and yes I had thought about the necklace thank you for the idea to do it after I exchange rings with my new husband. Me and my FH communicate daily and if possible it is done by web cam and i speak with my future step daughter also by web camera just not every day. And yes i have my FH blessing to do this . I am not unthoughtful wife as someone insinuated. She is with a trusted caregiver no stranger is taking care of her she is well taken care of. Thank you for you kind remarks and advice

You have a wonderful way with words!

Recently saw a viral video about a stepmom reading to vows to her stepson. I'm sure you can find it on facebook. I think she read it after reading hers to her H.

My SD will be 15 at time of wedding. I'm not good with words either. She will arrive the day before from OOT with her Grandma. I plan to give her this as a symbol of my love for her.

We are doing something private right after the ceremony between my FH and my DD (who will be 6 at the time). He's going to buy her a special piece of jewelry and tell her he promises to be the best step dad to her.

My ex is very much involved so it doesn't feel right to do something public. TBH I think I'd feel weird if a woman was publicly declaring vows to my daughter in front of an audience.

Why do you communicate via web cam? Are you in a long distance relationship?

I am also on team private. I've done it, for sure. (Never with the children vowing anything). We've also done things like sand, paint pourings, glass which stress more the aspect of the blended family and what each member brings to it rather than the love between a step parent and a child.