Vows?! I'm panicking

Hi Anna! Glad you could join us! CONGRATZ on your engagement! It's totally OK to stress about the vows, not everyone can be a author.. I stressed about them to. You just have to sit down and relax and think. What do your partner do each day that makes you happy? What feelings do you feel when you glance on him? A friend of mine gave me a book called My wedding vows, one day, one word at the time or something, I'll see if I can find a link to it on amazon.

edit, here it is! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08NYMRD2R it's a handy journal which guides you to your vows. Hope it'll help.

you got this!

June 2022, and 1 minute at most of vows. The hard part is working on them no more than an hour, then putting them away a few days. maybe til you can start fresh. Do a few versions, and at the end of a month, look at the 5 or so, and see, which one rings true. Work on that one. But remember, if you never write your own vows, or forgot them, that is why the officiant doing the marriage has a backup set. Do you, Anna, take this man...You don't have to do your own, amd still nothing be will happen. We wrote vows, took a while, at about a month out. Every day I would say them, 1 time. I know he told his to the mirror sometimes. Come wedding day, I messed up starting we both were suppressing laughter, and when the JP cued FI, he was trying not to laugh, and said, I'll take her anyways. And I said, Him too. And we were still married. ... And after all these years, many a day when everything is nuts getting kids, dogs and us together, one or the other of us will say something, because it suits our marriage more than anything we wrote. We are happy together, and there is much laughter together.

Totally agree with working on it a little at a time. Don't (or at least try) to overthink this. Breath & relax!

If you’re not a writer, don’t make it unnecessarily difficult on yourself. Search Google for vow examples, look at a variety and then add your own twist and individual details (if you’d like). Also check with your officiant. But no need to stress, especially since you have nearly 2 years. You’ll be fine.

If you are not much of a writer, you can always ask your officiant for vow options. We did not want to write our own vows for our ceremony (we did a letter reading beforehand instead). Our officiant came up with beautiful vows, that were not super traditionally, for us.

I'm so nervous about writing vows as well and will be taking some of these suggestions

First, I would recommend taking a calm breath then start doing some research. I watched YouTube videos of couples saying their own vows to get ideas. I also Googled writing your own vows to get ideas. For my vows, I started them by saying how when I was little I dreamed of getting married, but until I met my husband I could never picture who I would marry then I met him and it became very clear he was man I wanted to marry. I then proceeded to name several things I love about him then made promises to him. Some of my promises were funny and others were serious. I love writing so I didn't have as hard of a time as someone who might not like writing.

Don't think to hard about them...let them come naturally! Start paying attention to your interactions...whenever you two are together, having a good time and something about your spouse stands out ---> write it down. Get your phone, pull up your note pad and just take notes on random moments that you two share and how that moment made you feel. The key is to write it down soon as the thought hits your mind because it'll be the most authentic moment. Over time you'll have so many notes already jotted down that you can then go back and start molding them into your vows. Some people add what they promise to do in their marriage or add in a funny little story but do what comes natural to you. Just start taking notes and you'll be good. I started this back in October of 2018 and I have a book almost LOL. Won't use everything but I have some really great points to use and when the time comes it'll be like taking a trip down memory lane which I think is super special. The best part is not letting your spouse know what your doing! Good luck!