Walking Down Alone

I am planning to walk by myself!!
No one has said anything to me.
I just said when I think about my journey to my fiance I see it as he and I did this and I am walking towards him on my own and I give myself away.
That's not to say I don't appreciate my parents as they will be walking the processional, I just felt like I wanted to walk myself.

This is a tough one. Most parents are so excited and proud to walk their son/daughter down the aisle. Especially if you are on good terms with them it is kind of like taking away an important moment in their life.

One of my cousins got married 18 years ago and I remember that she didn't have her dad walk her down the aisle even though they were on good terms. I found out later that she said she had gotten where she was in life all on her own with no one supporting her so she was going to walk down the aisle herself. I thought that was so disrespectful to her parents who had raised her, put her through college, supported her relationship, and contributed to the wedding.

I know this is not your intent but that is how it might come off to your parents.

I'm walking by myself. When my dad stopped being a father when I was 12, I always knew I would do it alone. My mom was amazed and felt sad I said I wanted to. She even suggested my brother. But to me it's all symbolism. I am coming into this alone but I'm not leaving alone. People might be disappointed but as long as your doing it for the right reason. Thats all that matters

I'm not close with my mom or my dad. I was hoping my fiance would walk me down but he wants the moment of seeing me and watching me walk down. I'll be happy to walk myself, no one has to give me away.

I wanted to walk by myself. My dad passed away when I was 12 . My older brother however, was looking forward to walking me. I honestly had thought about that as an option but because it is so important to him I am having him do it. Ultimately it’s up to you and the look/feel you want for your moment. Talk to your parents and explain what you want.

I walked by myself. I am not close to my family, but even if I was, I would still choose to walk alone. I saw it as I am walking down the aisle as an independent woman confident in my choice of partner. Plus, it gives the guests an unobstructed view of the bride!

In Jewish weddings, both of the bride's parents escort her down the isle. My cousin did not do this. While her mother was present at the wedding, her father was in hospice with the final stages of Huntington's Disease. For that reason, she chose to walk alone. The held a second, private ceremony just for her dad a few weeks later. I wasn't there, but was told that it was very emotional.

I vote walking yourself! Do what makes you happiest and most comfortable. I'd sit your father down and explain that while you love him very much, you wish to walk yourself (possibly explain why, if you think it would help) and that it has nothing to do with him or your relationship together. I'd suggest having the father/daughter dance (if you weren't already) instead?

I’m walking by myself!
My dad is not alive & I am very close to my mom, but I prefer to walk alone. First, because I don’t like the whole sexist tradition of bride being given away. Yes, my parents raised me & put me through school etc. But so did groom’s parents & yet grooms don’t typically walk with their parents. So why the difference? I’m a grown, financially independent woman & have been for a long time now, so nobody is giving me away. Walking by myself represents my own choice of my life & my partner.
Second reason is that I just like that all eyes will be on me & I will walk at my own pace 😃
My mom doesn’t mind at all & is totally fine with my choice.

View Quoted Comment We are doing the father/daughter dance! Thats why I kind of thought it would be fine too. But, when I told like my friends and my FH MIL, they were both kind of on the side of having them walk me down. I’m still deciding because of it.

I’m so glad you brought this up! When I think about walking down the aisle, I’m walking myself. My Dad has expressed wanting to walk me down the aisle and I told him he could ... but he and I aren’t that close and I’ve been on my own since I was about 18. I’ll be 39 soon and I’ve been financially independent since I was 18. My fiancé is having her brother walk her down the aisle (her dad passed away) and she and I are paying for our wedding and honeymoon ourselves. I’m kinda in a hard spot too! I look forward to reading more comments and again, thank you for bringing this up! (Maybe walk a little of the way up? or meet me at the end of the chairs.. ugh.. I have no clue!)

View Quoted Comment I think people forget that traditions don't HAVE to be in a wedding, sometimes. Legally nothing HAS to happen except the 3 legal bits. Best of luck! You'll figure it out!

View Quoted Comment I feel you COMPLETELY. Maybe it’s because it’s such an important tradition, I don’t feel like I need to do it. I love my dad more than anything but I think this is something I need to do on my own for once.

I’m in the same boat, just I don’t have a relationship with my parents or any uncles. So I’m walking myself down the aisle.

It is really up to you. But I would suggest having a very open conversation for your reasonings and motivations with your father. This way no bad blood brews and there wont be any hurt feelings on your special day.

I want to, but they are throwing a fit.