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Savvy August 2018

Walking down the aisle alone

A, on December 11, 2017 at 3:38 PM

Posted in Wedding Ceremony 45

Hey ladies how would any of you brides feel about walking down the aisle alone ??...my father passed away when I was 8 years old and my mother would move with us a lot so I never got close to any of my uncle and aunt died in May so I asked my mother to walk me she's been indecisive of walking me...

Hey ladies how would any of you brides feel about walking down the aisle alone ??...my father passed away when I was 8 years old and my mother would move with us a lot so I never got close to any of my uncle and aunt died in May so I asked my mother to walk me she's been indecisive of walking me because she says that she doesn't want to attend my wedding because she feels fat I didn't feel like arguing with her and telling her that she's wrong I did tell her that she's beautiful regardless and that being fat or skinny I still would want her to do it and that didn't change her mind I'm not going to beg so what are your thoughts ??

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  • cantwait4thedate
    VIP November 2017
    cantwait4thedate ·
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    Holy Run On Sentence, Batman!!

    I have no parents left to walk me down the aisle, so I walked by myself for the majority of the beach, then right before where the chairs started, my husband walked up the aisle, took my hand, and we walked back down the aisle together.

    I thought it was perfect, even though it wasn't talked about ahead of time and the officiant told him to do it, but it sort of signified our relationship perfectly.

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  • T
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Taylor ·
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    I am walking alone or having my son give me away, depending on how shy he is and where his vocabulary is at come time for the wedding. I don't have much of a relationship with either one of my parents so I don't feel like that's something they deserve. I don't think it's bad to walk alone at all!

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  • B
    Expert July 2017
    Becky ·
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    I think you should do what makes you comfortable.

    I am a little taken aback by you saying that your mom doesn't want to come to your wedding because she feels fat . . . seriously?! She would miss your wedding *in EIGHT MONTHS* because she's not happy with how she looks?

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  • Audrey
    Devoted October 2018
    Audrey ·
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    My dad hasn't been apart of my life for over ten years now. He walked out when I was 9 and has been on and off. I haven't seen in him in about ten years (I'm 23 now, 24 for wedding). Long story short, I always thought I'd walk alone. I have no qualms about it. No matter what I do I'm going to feel awkward or self conscious. However, my mom has made it very clear (in a funny way!!) that she must walk me down the aisle. And that's what she's doing.

    But no, there's nothing wrong with walking yourself either. I just so happen to have an amazing relationship with my mom.

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  • FutureMrsM
    Super July 2018
    FutureMrsM ·
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    I'm not walking alone. But there is nothing wrong or weird about you walking alone. The real issue here is the fact that your mom isn't coming to your wedding because she thinks that she's fat.....

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  • Lex
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    Lex ·
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    I'm probably walking alone because I don't even know if my dad will show up. He works overseas and the last time I saw him was my high school graduation.

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    Savvy October 2019
    Victoria ·
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    My friend had her best guy friend(who wouldn't have been in the wedding otherwise) walk her down because they were such good friends and he was like a brother to her! Otherwise I say walk by yourself! I think you should have the talk with your mom if you really want her to walk you down and tell her that it's your day!

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  • Shannan
    Dedicated June 2018
    Shannan ·
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    I might walk with both parents. They both made me, seems right. Or by myself but then dad might feel left out. I think it would be lovely either way

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  • A
    Dedicated June 2019
    AtoK ·
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    I think it's fine to walk alone. But it's also important to figure out what you want, no matter what people will think. My mother will be walking me down the aisle (my father has been out of my life for the last 10 years no contact nothing) . I would hope that if you want your mom to walk you down the aisle she respects your wish, no matter how she feels because everyone will be looking at you anyway.

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  • Red Queen
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    Red Queen ·
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    I asked one of my best friends to walk me down the aisle. Not to give me away- just because he is important to me.

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  • Heather
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    Heather ·
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    I struggled with this myself. Ultimately i would have wanted my brother to have walked me down but he was killed in 06.. I have no real relationship with my dad if he needs something he calls if not then nothing. I have no other family but my mom and she has issues walking.. So instead of walking alone i asked my future brother in-law to do so. Kind of a way to honor fh family as both his parents passed away 3 yrs ago

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  • Oceankissed
    Super November 2017
    Oceankissed ·
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    I walked alone - it was fine. I wanted either my father or no one and my dad did not feel comfortable enough to attend the wedding (he has social anxiety and it would have been too much). It made me a little more nervous walking alone, but it was fine.

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  • Maria
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Maria ·
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    I plan on walking alone because I don't have the best relationship with my parents. I think it's becoming more normal to do.

    I can understand where your mom is coming from with no wanting to be in the spotlight. Perhaps she can be at the end of the aisle to give you a hug and a kiss before you walk up to your groom.

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  • M
    Beginner October 2018
    Meghan ·
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    I totally agree with 'JustKidding', "I feel that I am entering this marriage under my own free will and of my own choice. Why should someone walk me?"

    I am all about taking this walk on my own or meeting my fiance down the aisle. I won't go into my feminist manifesto here lol, but I think it is awesome to take that stand for yourself!

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  • Kaye
    VIP October 2018
    Kaye ·
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    Walking alone.

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  • Jordana
    Dedicated October 2019
    Jordana ·
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    My 10 year old son will be walking me down the aisle. It means so much to me and he's super excited about it. We are bff's

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  • P.F.
    Super May 2018
    P.F. ·
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    I'm walking alone. Everyone's family is structured so differently and everyone's relationships with different members is so different that it no longer makes sense to call that the father's role. You can have anyone you want walk with you or walk by yourself

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  • S
    Savvy April 2018
    Samantha ·
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    My father passed away 8 years ago. I will be walking alone, but would have walked alone even if he was still alive. It's the feminist in me.

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  • lilchameleon
    Expert April 2019
    lilchameleon ·
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    I'm walking in with my groom. We're doing a first look and all the photos beforehand, so it makes sense walking in together. My dad also passed when I was 8.

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  • Bessie
    Devoted March 2018
    Bessie ·
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    My mother passed when i was 8 also. We both lost our parents when we were young with that being said we didnt have a ceremony it was very personnal and in our pastors office. We are now renewing our vows and decided on having a wedding we will have pictures of our parents and grandparents. We together overcame what we struggled with the first time around. Long story short out of my 5 sons my baby gentlman is walking me down on our special day. I hope this helped.

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