Walking down the aisle

Would it be out of the question to have both walk you down the aisle? I know that’s not necessarily traditional, but your mother might just be hurt that you’re choosing him to have the honor of walking you when she felt like she raised you. If you’re not okay with this I would just sit her down and try explaining how you feel and maybe try to include her in some other way that doesn’t involve her walking you over your dad

I would also suggest to have them both walk you down as she does have a point and her feelings are fair. You could also walk by yourself, now a days you don't have to follow tradition unless you really want to. However this is your wedding and you should do what makes you happy.

The choice of escort has nothing to do with who raised you or not. It's your day, so do what makes you happy. Sit down and explain your feelings and maybe there is something else you can honor her with.

I like the idea of having both of them walk you down. My daughter is getting married this year and that’s what we are doing. We got divorced when she was 8 and she lived with me and didn’t spend much time with her dad so that was the compromise we all came to.

If you want your dad to walk you, stick to that. It's your wedding.


My parents were married, but my mom did most of the childbearing. Did they both walk me down? Absolutely not. I love my mother more than life itself and I will never be able to repay her for what she gave me, but I wanted my dad to give me away to my husband. Thats just the way I wanted it.

PP saying that she's right makes no sense to me because you didnt tell us what their divorce was like or how much custody they each had.
It seems like your mom is trying to have her divorce influence your wedding and that's not fair. Kindly tell her that you have made up your mind.

View Quoted Comment Very much agree with this!

View Quoted Comment I've thought about this, but my mother just hates even being in the same room with my dad and until now they have succeeded staying away from each other. She doesn't even want him sitting next to her at the wedding ceremony, so I'd say even that is out of the question.

View Quoted Comment She needs to accept it for one day. It’s not about her; it’s your day. My daughter has decided her dad will walk her half way and I will walk her the other half. That way we each get individual pictures with her and we have our own time with her. I don’t really want to be around my ex either, but I’m an adult and will do it for my daughter. It’s only one day. You should sit your mom down and explain that she needs to accept this or not come.

I think your mother needs to get over herself. The day is about what makes you happy, not what makes her happy. Have your dad walk you down the aisle because it's what you want. I wouldn't also have my mother walk me down the aisle because she is throwing a tantrum if it's not what you envision on your day. Tell your mom you hear her, and you love her, but it's important to you that you have your dad walk you down the aisle - it's something you have always dreamed about for your wedding.
She's being childish and manipulative by throwing "i raised you, not him" in your face. I'm angry for you that she is behaving this way and speaking to you like that. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I hope you get what you want and she loves you enough to respect it.