Walking down the isle myself

I thought about it, since I was grown and independent for more than 20 years before getting married! But I’d always pictured my dad walking me, and I knew it mattered to him, so that’s what I did. I think it isn’t disrespectful, but I’d be sure to honor your father in other ways. If you cut out walking down the aisle AND dance AND toast, etc, it starts looking like you have a problem with him. Maybe talk to your dad to see what he even cares about — he might not care about walking you down the aisle but has always pictured the father/daughter dance, for example. There’s no right or wrong, just what’s right for you.

There’s nothing rude or disrespectful about walking alone. It’s not for everyone though. Having an escort in no way whatsoever means that the bride is given away as property, despite some people strongly believing that it does even if no related verbiage is spoken. Some brides have every intention of walking alone and then when they see the sea of guests, they freeze up and a guest has to come over to escort them. It happens more than people realize.


I thought about walking alone for 2 minutes. Because I am no contact with my parents, it makes sense to walk alone, but I knew that my anxiety would take over unless we were having a true elopement (only legal witnesses in attendance instead of all loved ones), so I ended up asking a close friend to alleviate that stress. No one said anything, even though they didn’t understand why the NC was in place.

I wanted to walk myself, but my parents b|tched and guilt tripped until I gave in and let them walk me halfway. My sister was the same as yours; she basically said mom would be angry at me for the rest of her life unless I said yes. What's done is done, so I try not to think about it much, but I would always encourage future brides to do what you want. More brides are walking themselves these days, and it doesn't necessarily say anything about your relationship to your parents or anyone else.

My comment seems to have disappeared. Again, I'd say that walking down the aisle with one or both parents does not have to symbolize a lack of independence any more than having bridesmaids and groomsmen supporting you on the day would. That said I like the idea of both parents being asked if they are in the picture, not just the father. I've seen quite a few weddings where that is done. Personally I'd look it an expression of love and appreciation for raising you to be the independent woman you are today. Of course walking alone is in no way a rude sign of disrespect either.

If your sister is saying something that may mean she knows how your parents feel. If it is important to them and you have a good relationship that would enter into the equation for me. At the end of the day, it means what you say it means.