Want to surprise groom and his friends with bottle service...is that too much?

I think they would love it! I don’t think the best man would feel inadequate at all. I think women tend to read into things, but men not so much LOL You could have them deliver a card or a little note from you with the bottle service too.

Love this, do it!! It would be a nice surprise regardless of the financial status of anyone in the group a who is unhappy about a free drink? I can’t imagine his mind jumping to that conclusion unless this has been a hot topic in the past.

Do it! I think they would love it.

I wouldn't do it. Let your FH have his evening with his friends without you.

Thanks for all of your input! I am going to go ahead and do it

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I wouldn't physically be there I would just be paying for the bottle service (the drinks)

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Love that idea!

Definitely do it, who wouldn't want free bottles of alcohol? lol

View Quoted Comment I hear you, but it's almost like you'd be inserting "your presence" there. He has the rest of his life to be mindful of you as a wife. As for your worries, they'll have no problem being well-received even w/o bottle service because dancers will always flock to a bachelor party.

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I totally get what you're saying, but I feel like inserting herself would be texting him all night to check up. I see paying for something like that as like one thing to say "I truly want you to enjoy your time; go have fun," but how her fiancé sees it is totally up to his personality!

Nice thought but also see the viewpoint of the PP thinking you’d be there but not physically there. Maybe talk with the best man about it, or if theyre going to dinner send out champagne at the end?

Agreed with Michelle - getting a "surprise" bottle service with a note from your future wife seems like a hijack to me. I guess this depends on your FH's personality as to how he would take it, but I personally wouldn't do it. Seems like you're "reminding" him of yourself, and I feel like it'd be hard to enjoy the point of a strip club with a note from my future wife glaring me in the face. Even as a wife, I am firmly in the "when the boys are out, you don't text, call, or send anything their way" camp.

I would send the bottle and give the best man the credit (if you know him well enough to do so). Everyone wins!