Wanted to share a Story

I've noticed that I see several posters sharing stories about future or current in laws crossing boundaries. I wanted to share that last xmas I had a conflict with my future BIL bc he tries to hug me when I dont want him to and have asked him several times to simply shake my hand. I stay clear of him because he made up a lie about me and I perceived it as him trying to degrade my character to my FH's entire family. I was very hurt by this bc he does not raise his daughter... His daughter (my FH's niece) lives with her grandparents (my fh's parents). I have bought so many clothes, shoes, school supplies, etc. for that child over the past 5 years (probably totaling thousands of dollars) and her father (my future BIL) has not thanked me, not one time nor aknowledged it. My future MIL even told me that he went so far to say "I can't believe my brother is with her! Why is he with her?" I found this hurtful and odd bc when he was with his daughter's mom, he still stayed with her after she left the child in the car overnight at 3 years old, stole money from his parents and lied about ger eldesr child from a previous relationship being her sibling instead of her child.



My FH handled it as he should have since that is his blood and told his brother to please stop forcing hugs upon me and that he would never treat his significant other that way. He also told him that I do a lot for his daughter which he abandoned and that he has never shown appreciation. Fast forward to present, ever since my FH has made the clear boundaries, we've had zero issues. I love him ❤❤❤