I'll try to make this as short as possible. Some background: So my fiancé and I have been together for 6 and a half years. We are both originally from small towns but have lived in the city for the last few years. I found an amazing teaching job as well as a seasonal job for the summer. The problem: my fiancé wants to move back to his home town (about 4 hours away from the city) and work for his dad. Recently the rest of his siblings (all 5 of them) have moved back to their hometown to work for the family business. I want to support him, but at the same time I don't want to give up my two jobs, all my friends and favorite places to go. He has always talked about compromise and "win-win" situations. However, he was very firm in his decision to move back, with or without me. I feel like I play second fiddle to any blood relatives. It doesn't help that I feel invisible when we are around his family, it's like he has selective hearing when I speak, like there's a tunnel vision for family and I'm just outside it. I've been racking my brain for a compromise, a win-win situation. But it looks like our only options are to split or go long distance. His mind is made and he is moving back as soon as he can and I refuse to go to a place where I have nothing. He isn't forcing me to go anywhere, but I feel like all my options are horrible. I either give up my career or quality time with him... any thoughts? Neither of us wants to split, there is still love and passion for one another, but we want different things out of life.