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Just Said Yes April 2021

Wanting to change engagement ring

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Samantha, on February 14, 2021 at 12:54 PM

Good afternoon ladies!
So long story short, I told my fiancé yesterday that I wanted to change my engagement ring and he took it okay. I could tell he was hurt but he said right away to go change it for something I love. He asked me before what type of rings I like and i told him I like a plain band with a cushion cut; he got my a 3 stone, emerald ring which is very beautiful but it’s just not my style at all...I gave it a month to see if it would grow on me and it hasn’t so I finally said something. But now today I am feeling soooo guilty and feeling like I should just be appreciative for what he got me. I know he said to change it out for what I like but now this new ring won’t have sentimental value to it.... I feel torn.
Have any of you ladies been in this predicament?

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CountryBride · on February 15, 2021 at 11:04 AM
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We picked my wedding set together I don’t like the size of my engagement ring it’s on the smaller side however when we pair it with my wedding ring it looks perfect but I know that’s all he could afford
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Amanda · on February 15, 2021 at 6:00 PM
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I’m a very big believer in loving your ring - especially since you made it clear what you wanted and he didn’t listen. Anytime I give a gift, I want the person to love it. If my husband said he wanted a dog and I got him a cat, I’m prettttty sure he’d say something. Just a different perspective.
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Monica · on February 14, 2023 at 8:34 PM
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I’m in a kinda similar situation. So hear me out, and please do not judge me. I’m an over-thinker, and am very torn on this… Also bear with me, this might be kinda long to give proper reference to the story.

Two years ago, my boyfriend and I went “ring shopping” without the talk of even getting married. Kinda like window shopping. I found a ring that I loved and jokingly told him it was the one I wanted. A few weeks later, he actually did go back and get me the ring I had picked out. When he gave it to me, he slid it on my left hand and said he loved me, but he never actually proposed to me. (He and I both come from previous divorces, but we both do know we want to get married AT SOME POINT.) Anyway, the ring itself is not technically an engagement ring- it’s one of those “right hand rings,” which means there is no band with it or made for it, and we’d have to have a band custom made. I knew this when I picked it out, but picking it out was a joke and I never in a million years thought he would go back and buy it so I was ok with that, but as time passes, I’m realizing that even a custom made band would look funny with it. The ring is very oddly shaped. I have semi brought this up to my boyfriend in the past and he’s kinda acted like he’s on the fence about it. He knows that I love the ring and love him even more, but he also thinks I should just live with it. But when we finally do get married, I want a wedding band, too, not just the engagement ring. Is this wrong or selfish of me?!? Should I try to talk to him again; like maybe I just caught him off guard or on a bad day the first time I brought it up??? I NEED HELP!!! 😭😭
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