So my fiancé and I recently graduated from
college this past May and so we are both getting our career lives started so we don’t have a lot of money to pay for our wedding. My mom has always said that when I get married she and my dad will pay for the wedding if I give them a year long engagement so they can pay for it without going into debt. But unfortunately with them footing the bill, she basically has taken over the whole thing. The budget is pretty small so I knew the wedding wasn’t going to be fancy which I’m fine with, however it’s now it’s just looking cheap and tacky. She thinks her ideas are”classy and simple” but everything she is picking looks like a cheesy 90s style church wedding. When we went dress shopping, everything that was in the $200 budget was kinda boring and I didn’t like anything. I paid to rent the church and I’m paying for as much as I can to get my own way on some things but none of it looks good. I’ve been thinking of just telling my mom we are calling off the actual wedding and my fiancé and I will just go to Vegas with our closest friends and get married there. I’m at the point that I don’t want to look back at my pictures and hate my wedding. The dress I settled for isn’t anything that I would have ever picked for myself and I don’t feel beautiful in it. The decorations, the flowers, the cake, all of it just isn’t pretty or my style at all. It’s making me hate my own wedding and I just want to be married at the end of the day. I don’t want to be ungrateful and I love my mom and I can understand she doesn’t want to spend a lot but I would rather her save her money for anything else than the what I feel we are wasting it on. When I’ve pushed back on things, her feelings get hurt my which I don’t want to do. Has anyone else had to deal with something like this and any advice?
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