Wanting to Get Along

Good morning!


I am in need of a little advice. My mother and I have a difficult relationship, we love each other dearly and use to be best friends but I as grew up and into the individual I am today, we are no longer compatible on a best friend level. For lack of better terminology, I feel like a stranger to her. Everything she suggests is predictable from her but not what I want. I myself am not easy to deal with and am unwilling to compromise on certain things. Of course those are the things she wants to have some say in. For an example, when talking about the colors and flowers she said she envisioned white rose and babies breath. I am a funeral director and see those all the time in a funeral setting therefore I do not want them for wedding (I've actually grown to dislike them entirely) when I told her this almost verbatim, she got very upset but let it go. Next she brought up that she wanted me to wear a tiara with gold in it. I have no interest in wearing a tiara and she is well aware that I do not wear gold nor do I like the way it looks on me. It's been very frustrating to try and involve her because once I tell her how I feel about something her feelings get very hurt and she takes it very personally. She has now said she won't offer her opinion anymore unless asked and when asked she says it's whatever I want.
TLDR; I want my mom's opinion but I hate her ideas!
How can I get across to her that I want to hear what she has to offer I just also am not willing to budge on the theme and what I consider that theme to consist of?