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Was denied the time off for my honeymoon 😭

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Shawna , on August 3, 2018 at 3:52 PM

Opinions appreciated. My fiancé and I got engaged in January. We always talked about a summer wedding but couldn’t get the time off this year. We are waiting 18 months to get married. But as it turns out, I still got denied time off for my honeymoon. We have waited 18 months!! I put in my time off request 14 months ahead of time! The reason being is a girl with more seniority than me requested the same two weeks off as my honeymoon and only one of us can be off at a time. We can’t go later than that because my FH works at a local college and classes start so it’s those two weeks or not at all. I talked with my manager and she said there may be nothing she can do. I told her I will start looking for another job then. Is that insane of me to leave my good paying job for my honeymoon? And even if I leave what kind of job would give a new person 2 weeks off in August? Thoughts and suggestions?!

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Devoted December 2018
Megan · on August 3, 2018 at 6:44 PM
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I think MOST employers understand that a honeymoon requires time off. We are taking it in December because my work automatically has a break but my FH works for a smal company where only one can really be off at a time and they still allowed him to take two weeks off with no question. Perhaps if your work knew you were contemplating looking elsewhere then they would be singing a different tune. I would trudge lightly though. Good luck!
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Chris · on August 3, 2018 at 8:50 PM
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Hey, Shawna- this is such an unfortunate situation. Between their policies and the lack of flexibility on your coworker's part. Of course, she's not obligated to change her vacation but come on...birthday vs honeymoon?!
I read through all of the comments and this is the one that did it for me- you're not happy at this job! I think that it's safe to start looking for another job now (don't quit until you have something lined up unless it's really a bad situation at work) and explain to your future employer when your honeymoon is! Most people would be reasonable about accommodating time off, paid or not- that's between you and future employer, for a once-in-a-lifetime event!
Good for you for standing your ground. A year and a half is so much time for your employer to work around. And if you're not happy in your current job on top of that? Time to move on Stay strong!
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Dedicated October 2019
Maggie · on August 3, 2018 at 8:58 PM
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Girl I don’t blame you. I’d be looking for any other job. If they could not accommodate you that far in advance for your honeymoon, find a job who can !
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Tpatb · on August 3, 2018 at 9:43 PM
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I agree w/ trying to request off for the Christmas break. It’s abt 2weeks before the semester starts again & there are still plenty of places where it will be warm & you can honeymoon.
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Casey · on August 3, 2018 at 9:48 PM
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Honestly, while it may be silly to quit your job over a honeymoon, that’s not quite what this is. I don’t care how good paying a job is, if they don’t let you take off when you request 14 months in advance, they are an unreasonable company to work for and I wouldn’t want to work there anymore.
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Devoted October 2018
Nicole · on August 3, 2018 at 9:55 PM
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You can delay the honeymoon to another time where you can take time off? I know it's very hard to take time off at work especially when others have seniority. My fiancé and I are getting married this year but will have to wait until next summer to go on a honeymoon. I work at a college and can't take 1-2 weeks off during the busy semester so I am waiting until school gets out.
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happeningmom · on August 3, 2018 at 11:37 PM
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Try to work it out with the other person. If you found another job, which to be is crazy, you could tell them that you have your honeymoon scheduled for that time and will need the time off. Most employers will work with new hires regarding life events but it must be known at the timw
of the job offer. Please realize that some occupations and/or employers may not be able to give time off regardless of when you tell them. If you cannot work it out with your co worker I would just plan a weekend away and then when time Permits have your honeymoon.
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Tara · on August 3, 2018 at 11:51 PM
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Im one of the few that agrees. If you are contemplating leaving for this im sure there are other reasons. 18 months is a long time, long enough they should let the both of you off. I stayed at my former job for 5 years too long and finally left because i was fed up with how they treated me. That was a little over a year ago and it was the best decision ive ever made. Good luck with your decision!
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