Watch livestream wedding instead - rsvp wording?

Could you just add everyone that declines to the Facebook group? To me that seems like less trouble. For me having the ones who want to watch virtually RSVP yes but then add a note would make it hard for me to keep track of my actual guest count of those attending in person for catering/venue purposes.


Maybe just say for those of that can’t come/don’t feel comfortable we will be live streaming our ceremony. Be on the look out for a private group on Facebook for details.

View Quoted Comment Oh yes that makes sense too haha, thank you!

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I agree with this! Have it be so that if they accept, it means they are attending in person. If they decline, they'll be added to the Facebook group. If they can't attend the livestream then they'll just miss it, it won't matter, but they'll be in the group in case they do want to.

You did explain it very clearly, but honestly people don't know how to read sometimes hahaha. You're going to get people who click accept and don't mention that they'll be attending the livestream instead of in person. You'll get people who will decline and then be like "where's the livestream?!"

I would phrase it exactly like how you said, but instead of:

To RSVP for the livestream: search your name below, select "I accept" and in the comment box please write "I would like to watch virtually." I will then add you to our private Facebook group.

Change it to

To RSVP for the livestream: search your name below, select "I decline" and in the comment box please write "I would like to watch virtually." I will then add you to our private Facebook group.

This way, you'll get a ballpark of how many will want to watch virtually, but even if they don't mention it in the comment box I'd still invite everyone who declines to the Facebook group just in case.

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Thank you!!! Okay all the people that decline, I'll just add them to our Facebook group. Makes total sense now haha.