Hello! FH and his mother do not get along. She has caused a lot of problems in our wedding planning. For example, she threw a fit because FH wanted to include his brothers from his father's first marriage (her stepsons) as his groomsmen. She said only her biological son should be in the party. She also said I should exclude my own brothers to "keep costs low" when we never asked for input. We included them all anyway, despite the tantrums.
FH still wants her invited and (minimally) included in the details because it is his mother, but we don't want her handling anything major like the centerpieces.
She will throw a major fit if she isn't given projects to do, but she will also complain if she has been tasked. She was telling her side of the family that she "stayed up so late" blocking hotels, but I saw all the communication as I was copied on it. She doesn't work and the communication was always during business hours. She has since admitted that she lied about staying up late to get attention. I said thank you so much for blocking the hotels, it was a big help. She said if I really appreciate it, it would be nice for me to write on our wedding website that she handled the hotels herself, so I added it just to avoid drama. I included her in everything, she is even getting her hair and makeup done with my bridesmaids at no charge. We are letting her sit at the head table with my mom at bridal shower to be nice. But she still complains.
We would rather give her small projects that aren't totally essential to the day. In our opinion, it's better for her to complain about being included than constantly throw a fit that she's been excluded. My mom and I have already knocked out the major things like centerpieces and pretty much all of the essential decor & signage, along with all the florals. We offered for her to help assemble centerpieces/flowers with us, and go shopping to get the pieces we chose for them. She declined, stating that she "really wants her own projects" so she can point them out to wedding guests and get praise for them.
His mother is going to be making flower crowns for the flower girls since they are all from her side of the family and that was important to her. She loves to craft, so I was also thinking of asking her to make props for a photo booth. Not totally essential, but makes her feel like she's doing something. She lives in another state, so it works best to give her projects that can be done independently of what my mom & I have done.
Does anyone have suggestions for projects or crafts that I could give her? I welcome any help at all and would love some fresh ideas since I am all out. I know it sounds like it makes the most sense to give her zero to do, but if that happens, then she will have FH's dad text him and tell him he's a horrible son. Thanks in advance 