We don't want a registry, would should we do?

We didn’t have a registry. You can put a card box out but don’t put a jar for money. That’s tacky. All but 3 guests gave us cash and checks.

Also, don’t have a shower if you aren’t registering for physical gifts.

We are also not doing a registry, we are in the process of going through our things because we have too much. We are not going to say anything or ask for money in any way. Hopefully people will get the hint that we didn't register and will give money instead if they choose to give a gift at all.

I think most people don't say anything and people get the idea. Many people will plan on giving you cash anyways, but don't "request it".

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That's absolutely not my intention, that's why I'm trying to see what others did instead of being blatantly obvious.

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That had not crossed my mind. Thank you!

Just don't register. People will get it and will give cash/cards. I would put a card box on the gift table.

Don't register and your guests will know.

Honeyfund jars are tacky and come off as entitled. Scroll through the latest posts. There are several honeyfund posts right now.

Skip the registry

We’re not having a registry. People will just give us cards. No biggie.

Skip the registry, people will give you cash on their own. You don't need a HM jar or HM fund, that'll just put people off.

Very tacky to ask for money outright or ask for people to contribute to your honeymoon. You may have "all you need" now. But this literally the only time in your life people are going to buy you really nice things that can last you your entire life. 40 years of marriage later, my mom still uses many of the items she rec'd for her wedding, esp around the holidays, and she remembers the people who gave it to her. You could also consider setting up a donation to a charity in lieu of people giving you gifts, since you have everything you need.

Don't register if you don't want to. People will bring a card with money in it most likely. From what I've been told, guests usually just gift money on the day of the wedding even when they do have a registry. So a card box would be a good idea to keep cards/envelops together for the night.

I would also suggest not having a bridal shower if you don't need anything. The whole point of a shower is to provide the couple with things they need to start their life together. But if you have everything, you won't need one! :-) Let your bridesmaids know that you aren't registering though in case they are planning a shower.

How old are you OP? I didnt register and got all cash/checks. Looking back i wish i had upgraded some stuff. There isnt anything that you could upgrade to much high quality then your willing to purchase.

I would encourage you to really think about things that you could register for because especially with older folks, you will have a few people that absolutely will not give cash for a wedding. You might as well get something you actually want (or upgrade something you have and donate the replaced item). As Cuoghi said, this is one of the few opportunities to get some things that you want rather than need, and you could keep them for ages.

Im not having a typical registry (e.g. Amazon, Create & Barrel, etc) and opted to have one through Honeyfund.com. This registry allows the guests to donate to our honeymoon funds towards different expenses like hotels, transportations, activities, etc. Maybe something that would work for you?

Don’t feel obligated to register. People will understand.

Don't have a jar. Thats tacky. If you don't want a registry just decline any showers people want to plan you as well. People will get the hint will give you money at the reception without being prompted.

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Please reconsider this. Those sites take a percentage of the money. Wouldn't you rather have someone give you $100 in cash than put $100 on a website and you only get $94 of that? These sites don't book excursions or anything for you, they simply round out how much it would cost. Instead of a honeyfund (which is tacky as well, since you are still asking for money) write personal thank you notes to people who give you cash and tell them you used it for a couples massage or whatever.