We finally postponed to 2021, is anyone still worried?

I’m literally in such a hard spot right now, the last few days have been so much to bare. We are set for our wedding 8/6/2020 and will be traveling to upstate NY where the cases are low and somewhat under control. We have lowered our guest count to 35 people and we have been told that our plans remain the same with distancing enforced but masks not necessary due to such an open indoor/outdoor space that can normally fit 300 people. I have everything done, vendors are on board and it’s ready to go. 5 of 8 bridesmaids are committed to coming as well as my parents and 7 of 8 of my fiancé’s groomsmen will attend as well. Overall, we have our immediate family, best friends and each other. It’s all set and ready to go! My stomach is in knots, part of me feels like we should postpone to air on the side of caution and maybe 2021 will be better. But then I’m like- omg we picked a location that means the world to us, the cases are so low in that area, it’s open, we can have all of our plans and important people ... maybe I should just take it as a sliver of luck?? Just go for it?? I don’t know what to do and it’s only a few weeks away! Help 🙁

We’re wondering the same as we’re about to choose a date for possibly May.

View Quoted Comment You just have to do what’s best for you and go with your gut! I hated the rules and regulations around here that’s why I decided to postpone, but if you don’t mind or don’t even have the same rules as us (no dancing no bars and masks) you should be fine! Good luck with everything and give us an update!!

View Quoted Comment It does help to not feel alone! Plus I totally get you about the planning bit! Very recently is when I was supposed to meet with a bunch of my vendors so my calendar kept going off with reminders to contact this person or don't forget to reach out to that person and each one was making me sad and stressed because I had to put them off because we weren't sure if we were going to postpone at that time. Once deciding I felt a lot if relief, like you said!


You too! Happy planning!!

Yes. My FH and I are sooo happy that we didn't put money down on anything. We have decided to not have a wedding at all because no one knows how long this pandemic will last. And once a vaccine is available, many of our family members want to wait 6 months to 1 year after to get it so they can see any side effects that others who have been COVID vaccinated. My mom refuses to dine inside a restaurant/venue until then. So we said eff it. Let's just elope and celebrate with loved ones once they all feel comfortable.

Totally in the same boat. I felt so much better as soon as we postponed to 2021 because I know we wont have the wedding we want this year. But in the back of mind definitely wondering if it’ll be better or God forbid it could be worse. I think unfortunately us 2020 and 2021 just need to keep in mind we may not get to have our weddings exactly as we planned them and we are just going to have to have them as best we can in 2021. Instead of getting anxious about how it’ll be thats what Ive been focusing on instead

We postponed from 6/27/2020 to 12/12/2020 and are holding our wedding in NC. We are going to hold our breath and wait it out to see exactly what is going on this fall. We have not discussed alternative plans as this is already our alternative. We don't want to postpone another year, as we got engaged in December 2018...but we will just keep our fingers crossed and hope for the best.