We may have to postpone our wedding indefinitely (it's a long story sorry)

You and your fiance are amazing to consider taking in three kids who obviously need care and love. You've obviously given it a lot of thought. Don't forget to check with your state to see if financial assistance is available - perhaps foster care payments.

Would you consider having a small ceremony and having the celebration later? Not suggesting you need to, but it might be an option if making it official is important to you and fiance.

This kind of a decision really needs to be thoroughly discussed with a social worker and a case manager. Regardless of your decision, you won't be alone, and any time CPS is involved, there are social services, training, financial support, etc. that will help guide you. I will say though, that being married will help your case to take the children, if that is what you decide to do. You may not postpone the wedding, but maybe you can start to envision it in a different way? Best of luck!

I would talk to someone from the agency before making your decision. You will likely be eligible for financial aid, both for purchasing the starter supplies and for providing the long-term care. I would also recommend asking about the legal rights of the birth parents; is there any chance custody could be returned to them?

Do you attend church? This would maybe be a good thing to talk about with a pastor or even a marriage counselor- just a neutral third party who could help you and your partner think through the decision and ask questions.

As for the wedding- you could always have a very intimate wedding- just your immediate families and best friends, ceremony somewhere pretty and then a restaurant reception.

You have a lot to think about for sure. I teach several kids who are in custody of someone other than their parents, and you have the opportunity to make a huge difference in those kids lives. However, there are also major challenges in these situations. Don't feel like you absolutely have to take them or you're a terrible human; not everyone is comfortable taking on challenges like this and that is absolutely okay.

Thank you everyone for the words of encouragement. Just to be clear I emailed the case worker right before posting on here. I tried to call her but got her voicemail and decided to email her because I needed to go to bed and only had about four hours before I had to be at work. I did ask about weather or not the placement would be permanent and let her know about our house situation and that we wouldn't be able to do a temporary placement because of it. I know several have mentioned doing a courthouse wedding then doing a big one later on. My FH is strongly against this. His sister did that and he refuses to do it which he claims is why he decided to add so many of his family to the guest list in the first place. Personally I would be happy to just do a courthouse ceremony and say forget the big wedding. However, the wedding is important to him. He does so much for me so if he wants to have his big wedding we will have the big wedding he wants. Also some people say that getting married will help in the placement or to become a foster parent. If I was to be a licensed foster parent then yes being married would help. However, when they place children with relatives the relative does not have to be a licensed foster parent at least not in my state. Also we are not making any final decisions until we have all the information needed to make the best decision for everyone involved especially for the children.