Hi All,
My fiance and I just got engaged and decided that since it was a second wedding for both of us, and as we are on a tight budget, we would just elope to Greece, and take a honeymoon cruise.
I guess he and I have a different understanding of an elopement, because yesterday, while talking to her on the phone, he invited his mom to the wedding. He said she wanted to tag along on our honeymoon too, but he put the kibosh on that immediately.
Don't get me wrong. I love his mom, she is a lovely lady, but because he invited her, I now feel like I have to invite my family. If my parents hear that my FMIL is going they will feel compelled to come too, because they wouldn't want anyone to think that they don't care about us. If my parents come, I'll also have to invite my siblings and his as well.
I wanted to avoid all this because if we have guests, I feel obliged to host them at a reception that we can't afford.
The whole point of eloping was I didn't want our families to feel they need to contribute to this financially, and for us to avoid having a reception. If I have to have a reception, I might as well get married at home.
In the end, I need to keep the peace. Do I cancel the elopement, get married at city hall and spend what we would have spent on the elopement and cruise on a reception at home instead? I don't know what to do with all this!
Any help appreciated.
