We postponed 2x. We cancelled. Now replanning?

100% after we rescheduled because our 40 person wedding was 5 ppl over for the venue in Pennsylvania I got super angry, then depressed, wanted to skip getting married altogether, now here I am 7 days out from the big day and super excited. While it’s not the Christmas wedding we planned and we lost about 3k in rescheduling I’m sure I’ll look back at all this crap and laugh. Don’t let the ‘man’ or covid ruin your positivity, hope, or plans for the future! ❤️

My husband and I decided to go forward with a minimony on our original anniversary date with our closest family and friends. We rescheduled the big wedding and that ended up getting cancelled because of Covid. At that point I was over it and ready to quit planning as well but I already have my big dress which I didn't wear and my bridesmaids have their dresses as well.

Just last week my husband and I decided to go look at another venue and I started getting that feeling back of wanting a wedding. Now I am completely back in the planning mood. My suggestion would be do whatever you and your fiancé wants to do. At the end of the day that is all that matters. Do you have a date in mind?

Many of us have been there, including me. Your feelings are valid. When I made the choice to cancel my big wedding (250 people in New Orleans) and plan a micro wedding (20 people in Destin), it took some time to get there. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. I completely understand — I cried and was totally upset because I found my boo later in life (we’re in our early 40s) and this was our first marriage and we didn’t get to have the big party we had planned. In fact, I had stopped planning altogether and was close to throwing in the towel.

However, my (now) husband sat me down and had a loving conversation with me. He asked me what I wanted and whether I would regret not celebrating at all. I He knew i was talking through my emotions and I would later regret not having some type of celebration at all. Plus, postponing to some unknown time was out of the question for us given our age. Although the pandemic would not allow us to have the wedding we imagined, we decided we would not cheat ourselves from having a full wedding experience - despite the number of attendees. We probably spent WAY more money than the average 20 person wedding, but we booked a venue at an oceanfront resort, splurged on yummy food and made sure our guests had an awesome experience for our wedding weekend. We kept some traditional elements (father walking me down the aisle, I wore my original wedding dress, wedding cake, reception grand entrance and first dance, etc). We livestreamed the wedding for those that were not there, and we're hosting "watch parties" in our hometowns after our wedding videos come in.

It was not what I had originally planned but now I wouldn’t change it for the world. We did not feel cheated or that we got the short end of the stick. We felt like we had an awesome wedding — and we did, even if it was a big change from our original plans. I’m so glad I did not let my emotions get the best of me. Don't let your emotions get the best of you and cause you to make a decision you may later regret.

Do what you and your fiance want to do - whether that's have a modified wedding or nothing at all -- it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else but the two of you. The decision on your wedding does not have to be all or nothing - somewhere in between may work too. Whatever you decide, I hope you will look back on your day and have no regrets. Hang in there!

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I know it must be very stressful and a rollercoaster for your emotions.

I was not a Covid bride, but my wife and I have discussed what we would have done if that was our situation. We said we would have still been married on our original day with just our close families (that felt comfortable attending) and would do a big celebration at a later time. You can still get married now and have your dream ceremony later. Don't let Covid steal the joy of wedding planning and getting married. Easier said than done, I'm sure. But you can still have everything you've dreamed up.

Good luck!

As far as your parents not attending because of Covid, that’s completely on them. I’m going to take a wild guess that they haven’t locked themselves in their house this entire time, so it seems like there may be some thing else that might be holding them up.
I know you said you’re sick of looking at Napkin colors etc. But maybe you can find a venue that already offers glassware napkins plating included. Some venues also have standard decoration of chandeliers etc. so there’s not much for you to think about as far as decorations go.
This sucks, but I have to say you are extremely lucky that you got refunded by all those people after postponing two times and then canceling. Where I’m from the vendors here aren’t too good about refunding any deposits.You could also think about doing virtual For some of your guests. It will actually save you a lot of money and you will still be able to share your wedding day with people that want to be present.

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7 days!!!!!!!!!! How exciting! are you freaking out?

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Its totally okay to have such a range of emotions about this situation.

Have you thought about eloping somewhere with just you two or a few people? this is a much easier solution for brides who have just had enough.

Or you could have a more inclusive wedding venue to help you out with some of the details. My venues price included a wedding coordinator and a day of assistant to take care of all the details for me. I know it must feel like the wind has been taken out of your sails but at the end of the day your love with you FH deserves to be celebrated.

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