Website where my guests can rsvp and give money towards a Honeymoon.

Hey fellow May 2020 bride!

Zola has a feature for your wedding website to include a cash fund along with other registries if you decide to add them. That way you give a link to your wedding website and it includes the fund, instead of giving them a link directly to a registry (that comes across bad). Hope this helps!

Personally I find asking for money in this way to be a bit tacky. But admittedly I'm old school. I've been writing checks for wedding gifts since the early 80's - no website, cute poem, or fees needed.

Thank you!

Ok thank you!

O I didnt know that. Thanks for the info.

I avoided a website at all costs (that costs extra $$ and they take a percentage, ew), most people in my family that are older don't know how to use it and it was easier to just go old fashioned with Invite, RSVP, and letting people know registry/gift info (if you go this route, do not put it on your Invite or RSVP, make a totally separate insert for it).

I did the same thing you're doing, with the HM fund idea. FH and I have been together for nearly 9 years. "I don't need an extra blender or a toaster, Marge." - is my exact feeling on the matter... I actually took two months to figure out what I might need on a registry and I still only came up with 20 items. I still did a registry, though, for those people who *need* to give you something physical instead of just a giftcard or cash.

Honestly, out of simplicity and ease -- I'd rather have money and while it seems tacky or rude, I feel like a jerk returning your gift because I already have it in condition enough that I don't need a new one. Weddings aren't happening where couples are moving out of Mom & Dad's, anymore. Most people are out on their own, putting off the bells and celebration. I think it's fair to mention that it might be something you're more-so wanting than that electric can opener at Target.

In order to not make it seem hecka rude, like everyone seems to suggest rather than seeing the reality of the changing world, make a registry. Give your guests the option to give you a gift, if they choose.

In my invitations I put the Invite, RSVP, and a small card that was a bit bigger than a business card that stated "The Bride & Groom are Registered at _____. In Lieu of physical possessions, a donation to create magical moments is appreciated" (our wedding is HP themed, so the magical part went with it).

I just wouldn't make a registry at all, and skip a shower of any kind. People will get the hint, and gift cash. Then you don't have to pay the fees for a money registry & offend people who don't find it very traditional to explicitly ask for cash. You obviously won't be able to plan your honeymoon until after the wedding, when you know your budget, but plenty of couples wait to go on their honeymoon. We used The Knot for our wedding website. It had all our wedding information, a link to our Amazon registry, our hotel blocks, and a way for guests to RSVP if they didn't want to use the paper RSVP.