Wedding and Bridal Shower Gifts

Skip the registry and people will default to cash or check gifts. If you don’t want physical gifts, you should decline a shower, since that’s the entire purpose.

You don't need a registry but I think there are sites where you can in lieu of a shower and wedding gift have people purchase excursions or libations while there. I think the shower would be fun but you can let people know there is no registry but that you just enjoy their company to celebrate their day. Maybe more of a bridal brunch?

We are skipping the registry and hoping (but not expecting) guests bring cash. I've been on the receiving end of a cash registry and it looked super tacky. I hate showers, personally, I'd much rather have a raging bachelorette party. You can have it all, obviously, but if I were expected to gift for a shower, pitch in for a bachelorette, AND gift at the wedding, I would feel it was a bit much.

So for my bridal shower my MOH made it nighties and lingerie gifts because I too have all the everyday stuff. That should be fun! On my website under registry I put this, “ As we start our lives together as husband and wife, we are especially grateful for the love and support from our family and friends. We are blessed with the necessities of everyday life, and have decided to instead plan a unforgettable family honeymoon to Hawaii to celebrate the begaining of our married life together and to show Dean one of our favorite places. If you would like to contribute at all to our honeymoon we would be very thankful. The biggest gift of all, however, is your presence on our big day. Thank you for your love and we can not wait to share our honeymoon adventures with you!” while I know some people will say that it is in poor taste to say something like that, I feel like it’s no different then if I had a honeymoon registry attached. The reason I don’t is I don’t want any fees, etc...

Just don't register. In the NYC region it's especially common to give cash at weddings. We had a smallish registry of upgrades for our apartmen that people purchased from for the shower. For the wedding, we got 1 physical gift and the rest were cards with cash or checks. No poems or honeyfunds necessary. If you don't register at all, I would forgo the shower since the purpose is to "shower" the bride with gifts or do a theme shower like stock the bar or a recipe shower. Otherwise, you really don't need to do anything if all you want is monetary gifts.

Just don't have a registry and hope people gift you cash but keep in mind that when you don't have a registry, you also forfeit having any showers.

A lot of people do honeymoon funds and it's fine. Or gift cards to things like Southwest or Airbnb and what not.