Wedding and Family Sadness

I’m so sorry to hear about that.
The way I see it is just because you’re celebrating some happy moment in your life it doesn’t by any means mean you’re overlooking the grief someone else is going thru either. Don’t feel guilty for having your moment of joy because they would want you to have it too.

You’ve planned your wedding for months (maybe years). So during that time of blind “wedding planning bliss”, real life is still happening. But none of what occurred is your fault and the different events are separate and not connected. So carrying guilt for being happy isn’t necessary. In the reverse... that’s like saying that your family members should feel guilty for being sad about their situations since you’re happy about your wedding..

Out of every sadness comes something beautiful. I'm sorry for your family's loss and illnesses. But your wedding is something to be happy about and to be celebrated.

I can't compare what you are going through, but I'll explain like this and hopefully you can use it as comparison of sorts... Planning and getting married during covid - it sucks. The world shut down, 3/4 of the world was quarantined in their homes. Then 1/4 of us were in the essentials workers category (that was my husband and I and everyone invited to our wedding). So for 6 months, we were trapped at home, unable to really travel like so many of were used to, canceled our family vacations. Our guest list increased a bit because those we expected "no" from actually said yes, and it was because we're essential workers. We were all tired of being cooped up in our homes, unable to travel and we all needed something to look forward to and to celebrate. Our wedding was just that. Our friends and families traveled 1000s of miles because they needed something to celebrate in a time that has been awful.

Again, I can't compare our story to yours, but everyone needs something to celebrate at the end of the day even in times of sorrow. Use your wedding as something positive, beautiful and the glimmer of hope that your family needs right now.

I'm sending you hugs and praying your family heals.

I'm so so sorry Annie, and sending love and thoughts to your whole family.

I'm sure this has to be incredibly emotionally difficult, but I'd just try to remind yourself that two things can be true! You can be excited about your wedding and devastated by your brother's news, they aren't mutually exclusive things. We're living in a world of emotional turmoil right now, but you still have to celebrate those amazing moments when they happen - like your wedding tomorrow!

I’m so sorry. Life can be so bittersweet at times. Maybe have a prayer said to acknowledge those who may be hurting or have a candle lit. It does not need to be announced to anyone or made into a big ordeal but can just be a little way to acknowledge that you are still thinking of them on your big day.

I am so sorry. We were married June 22nd or this year just before our governer increased restrictions. 2 days before my wedding our friend passed away suddenly. We wanted to cancel as I felt it was unfair to move forward. Our friends family and girlfriend told us not to, as they knew how excited he was for our wedding and he would not have wanted that. The day before the wedding while we were all grieving, my wedding coordinator who was also a good friend to the individual, helped us to plan a memorial video that we played during our reception. We put a chair in the middle of the dance floor with his signature ball cap on it and played the video for us all. We are an industry family and I truly feel we all had a moment of piece and comfort and felt him there with us. I am sending you virtual hugs and hope you too will move forward and have your special day.