Wedding Announcements

If you want you can send announcements, or perhaps you could use a favorite photo for your Christmas card this year. Either way, share those beautiful photos!

This. Also, I would try very hard to not track who likes or comments on your social media photos, and who doesn't. Seems like you will be a lot happier if you just turn a blind eye to that.

Then you are ahead of the game. If your mom brings it up again, I would ask her to stop keeping you updated on the ins and outs of distant relatives' social media participation. Problem solved!

As for announcements, only send them if you want to. If you really can't decide, save your money and don't send any.

I am in a similar situation right now except our wedding hasn't happened yet. I haven't told my relatives that the wedding is immediate family only, but I think most of them have figured out they aren't invited. I am planning on using one of our engagement pictures in a holiday card and mentioning that we are excited for our "intimate wedding ceremony" or something like that. And they can do with that information what they like.

Where I'm running into trouble is with my mother-in-law, who wants to invite literally every single relative she has living in this world to a party after the wedding. We have made it very clear to her that her random cousins from other countries are not invited, even if they did meet my fiance once when he was 2 (seriously??). She wants to send them a last minute invitation to the party and hope that they don't show up. I think that's incredibly rude, and suggested that if she wants to include them somehow we can send an announcement after the wedding. She thinks it will be a cultural insult, but I don't see how that's any worse than fake inviting someone to celebrate with us. I think it's a good compromise on acknowledging that they care about my fiance but still supporting what he and I want for our wedding.