Wedding Assumptions

LOL The good ol' "We were never really close, but since you're getting married you're instantly a really close friend/relation now so of course I'm invited" thing is pretty universal.

You are not alone. I've seen many posts of brides with this problem.

I think probably the best thing to do is make up a letter of how though you would like to invite everyone, it's not possible.

then send it to those that you can tell are assuming they will be invited.

no less rude then sending you a address because they assume they are invited!

We went through this the first couple months. People assumed they were invited merely because they heard that we got engaged. It teetered off for us eventually after a while and we sent out the invites extra early for other reasons so now I just stonewall/ignore anyone who asks for one. If gifts begin arriving from people I didn't invite originally, I'm considering inviting them to an after party or to the reception after dinner as a thanks

We're starting to get this, FH is a little more diplomatic but I've been outright putting my foot down on that nonsense.

Folk make call me rude but I'd call their bold face assumptions rude. Especially when they can see I'm obviously not well and choose that time to start whining and nagging about it.

Don't feel guilted or obligated to these people - it's not your job to soothe their butt hurt feelings when they don't get an invite.

If they start about manners and etiquette, politely point out that their behaviour was hardly good manners or good wedding etiquette.

We had this problem too, especially for the ceremony (only 15 people are invited). He's from Arizona and we're getting married in Vermont, so most of his family won't be able to make it, unfortunately. Our way of "evening the playing field" was to have just parents, siblings, and his grandparents attend the ceremony, and my extended family could come to the reception. Some of my relatives were hurt, but all you can do is explain your reasoning in a tactful, unapologetic way, and remember that it's your wedding, not theirs.

Yes! Ignore the comments.

Thank you ladies! I am trying to just ignore them. I think it's a little hard for me right now because this is all so new to me. As time goes on, I'll be able to just let it roll of my back

For whatever reason, I feel like, at least half of us on WW have gone through this! You are not alone, sweetie! And for what it's worth, my reaction was a little bit worse than yours. LOL! And no, I didn't invite THEM.