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Sloane
Super May 2022

Wedding Bliss…. Loss of Friendship

Sloane, on June 12, 2022 at 11:00 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 15
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I was just sitting here reflecting on our wedding and I’m a bit saddened as to how one’s wedding day can inspire just as much envy as it does happiness amongst friends.


I am so proud that all of my guest except for three were absolutely supportive and excited for us. I am saddened that one person who has always defined me as her BFF, Soul Sister was anything but that. She planned a shower I paid for at the last minute and did nothing to organize anything related to it aside from pushing send on a digital invitation. Left early from the wedding and reception because she was mad that she was able to give a speech, and indicated that since everyone at her table left. She didn’t see a need to stay. I have two others who voiced discontent about not being included in certain activities and they were not happy with where they sat.
All of this to say that I have realized that your happiness and the happiness that a union brings will often bring transparency to the unhappiness and hidden strife ‘friends’ harbor against you. Really doesn’t matter in the end but enlightening just the same.
But I have come to the conclusion that true friends are there for you at your height of happiness, during your lowest of lows and all the moments in between. If they have been with you through all of that consistently. Then they are indeed a friend. Has anyone else experienced this?

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Latest activity by Mrs.evans, on June 14, 2022 at 4:11 AM
  • Imani
    Master July 2022
    Imani ·
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    I’m so sorry to hear this Sloane. Over these past few months I’ve have to deal with similar situation. Being in a same sex relationship a lot of my ‘friends’ have been there for me. But when we announced our engagement things changed. Many are not supportive and it’s hurtful, but at the end of the day like you mentioned, the friends that are there for you will be and the ones that aren’t won’t. Your wedding day was beautiful and I am glad you were able to enjoy it despite the drama from your friend.
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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
    Sloane ·
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    Yeah I just chalk it up to some people not understanding the assignment of friendship.
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  • Imani
    Master July 2022
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    Yep! And everyone isn’t meant to go with you on your journey.
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    Aww that is sad and frustrating but you know what you never know what battle someone is going through so try not to take it too personally. Instead try focus on the joy and love that was shared that day. Sending big hugs to you.

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    Completely agree. Oftentimes people are secretly struggling with difficult things that we are not aware of. It’s important to have grace and forgiveness in our hearts, especially for those closest to us. I would focus on all the positives of your day, and give your friends the benefit of the doubt. It’s so great to hear your day was filled with so much fun and joy!
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    Michelle ·
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    I'm going to be less compassionate. Bitter people hold onto their pettiness every single day, not just someone else's wedding day. They were wrong to bother you with table seating, and their bad manners were out for all to see. If they hate their lives, that is their burden and you don't have to take part. It should not marr your otherwise beautiful day as it has nothing to do with you. If they should want to rekindle friendship, I'd be slow as they were annoying. Keep in mind, negativity breeds and sours.

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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
    Sloane ·
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    Agreed. I’m very compassionate but when I have hit my limit I bounce. We have decided to become more insular and eliminate anyone in our lives currently who fail to show up for us like we do for them. I love your advice.
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  • Sloane
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    Sloane ·
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    True! Our day was absolutely magical despite it all!
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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
    Sloane ·
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    Now that’s truth!
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  • Sloane
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    Sloane ·
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    So true. But sadly this friend has always had a wagon of troubles that she drags around with her. In reflection I realized she has always been there with me when life was low or her life was low. But when my life was on the up. She’s like where’s Waldo no where to be found. I’ve been patient for the last decade of our friendship and I have nothing else. I guess she didn’t either.
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    My dad always says nobody can ruin your day unless you let them, good on you for not letting it damper your day. Not all friendships are forever and it can really hurt when you realize you give more than you get back in any relationship. But it sounds like you have some really special people in your life so try to focus your energy on them. Sorry you are going through this though, keep smiling!

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  • Sloane
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    Sloane ·
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    That is so true and I didn’t learn about it until afterward. I found her behaviors and others curious. I am grateful it happened. It made her exit from my life easy.
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  • Paige
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    That's really unfortunate, and I'm sorry that came out on a day that should have been entirely dedicated to your happiness. I saw something once that said if someone reacts to your accomplishments or happiness with jealousy or anger rather than being happy for you, it says plenty about who they are as a person. Hopefully they'll come around and realize they should have behaved better, and in the meantime I'm glad you still had a lovely day Smiley smile

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  • Sloane
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    Sloane ·
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    That is a great quote. I am not worried about her and I wish her the best in all she does.
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  • Mrs.evans
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    Hi Sloane I am dealing with that now too when we got engaged alot of ppl are happy for us and other say that are but I've seen envy. On how they speak talk about how they man would have or better have done this or they were not going to accept the proposal. My proposal was right for us tell what I need to have or put there colors our wedding should be. Down to what wedding dress I should wear them heard that they were living carelessly thru us. As if they were the one planning a getting married ppl have tried to break up the devil had his hand in my family and job. Messing with the finances but the 1 things that they forget is that God is bigger than all of us. And I'm still getting married this year so I completely understand ma
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