Wedding blues

Aww Ana! I'm so sorry you went through this hun.. Do you remember ANY of the good times you had during the wedding? First of all that planner had NO business to include herself to be a bridesmaid. That is so rude of her. And for her to act the way she did.. so disrespectful. I hope she was fired from her job because that is definitely no way to treat your clients! And as for your other bridesmaids, I am sorry that some you had to cut off and some decided to leave.. But I feel like that showed their character in which I personally feel like you need to re-evaluate your relationship with them.

So yes, all of those things are horrible things that happened. But I think this needs to be seen as a lesson to never let ANYONE EVER walk over you anymore. You HAVE to do this for yourself to be happy and to have peace. Yes, it's sad that it had to be during the time of your wedding. But also I think this is a time to also reflect on yourself and your circle. I've had to cut out people and even block people in general and on social media because they were just so toxic and dramatic. Anyone that disrupted my peace I just let them go. But this is something that truly takes TIME and HONESTY with yourself. Before I became the woman I am today I had to go through so much (heart break, financial debt, my parents were on my back questioning where I was going in life constantly, losing my family dogs, and so much more). I cared SO much on wanting to be liked, having all these friends, being popular, etc. But it took YEARS for me to finally appreciate my TRUE friends and becoming stronger than I knew I was. I had to learn how to let go of things beyond my control. Sometimes I still struggle a little with that, but not as much as I used to.

And since it all already happened.. Sadly, there is nothing to do to change it. But what you can do is you can choose to see the good in your wedding or the good of what is to come ahead of your future

If you truly feel like you are struggling hun you can definitely see a therapist and there is no shame in that! I had to see a therapist a few times in the past to help me cope with my own personal issues. They can be pricey, but check with our job's benefits to see what they cover in your area.

If that is not within your budget then you can start off with some self help books. You can always get some of these at the library or even buy them at Target/Amazon. Depending on what you NEED (anxiety, not giving a fu**, caring too much, etc.) then that would be the area you should be looking into. You can also look it up on youtube. People and even brides will share their experiences as well. So, maybe you can relate to something with them and maybe they have some insight to share as well.

I'm praying for you hun!

This post has some good points and great advice. At this point, all you CAN do is appreciate your present and look toward your future. You can't change anything that happened up to this point and dwelling on one day out of your life will only continue to bring you pain.

For your own sake, figure out how to move past your wedding day. Evaluate your friendships and drop the ones that aren't worth keeping. Do whatever you need to do to fix the problematic work situation because your career could be affected. Get some counseling if you need help with communication and setting boundaries. You can do this!

I'm sorry you have experienced this, but it's important to remember that a wedding is nothing compared to a good marriage. You can have a horrible wedding day and still have a wonderful life with your partner.