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Just Said Yes October 2020

Wedding Brunch?

Autumn, on February 4, 2020 at 6:40 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 8
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Groom and I are trying to feel out a morning after option. We did a ton of research and narrowed it down to two options, both of which would cost around $2,000 and this is pretty out of our budget.


Here’s the facts: we are paying for our wedding in its entirety by ourselves. Neither of our parents are contributing financially due to their restrictions - which is perfectly okay. Our parents are not paying for a rehearsal dinner or welcome party, which we do not intend to have a welcome party. We’re dishing out pretty expensive gift bags upon hotel check-in.
We are having a large number of out of towners including family and friends, and our post wedding brunch would be for about 50 and this is family and bridal party only.
MOG and FOG are split up, divorce is still fresh, and they are STILL negotiating both being at the wedding, planning an additional event sounds like another hurdle where either one side won’t come, or there will be another setting for chaos to monitor.
Must we have a post-wedding event? It’s a lot of out of town family and it would be the kindest to see them, but it’s kind of an all or nothing scenario, not just a few people. And the idea of waking up with my husband and getting champagne tipsy while we open gifts alone and eat leftover cake sounds amazing.
To brunch or not to brunch? How rude are we if we don’t?

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Latest activity by MrsD, on February 5, 2020 at 1:37 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It’s not in your budget and it’s not how you want to spend your first married morning, skip it.
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  • Givemeallthepups
    Expert February 2020
    Givemeallthepups ·
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    We’re not doing a day-after brunch. I feel about half do and half don’t. We’re just grabbing breakfast / coffee in the hotel lobby and will chat with whoever is down there.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I know only receptions are custom but I think post wedding brunches are not. Even when I have traveled for a wedding the bride and groom did not offer day after brunch. Not in the budget then skip it. I do not think most guests expect it.

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Just skip the hosted brunch. We didn't plan anything formal but ended up eating brunch with some guests also staying at our hotel at the on-site restaurant. Everyone paid for their own meals and it just happened to be whoever was down there.
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    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    You could do something casual. Like take over a section of the lobby with coffee from Dunkin Donuts and muffins from costco. You could do that pretty cheap and still get to see people!


    If you choose not too though, I don't think its rude.

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  • Cherry
    Expert February 2020
    Cherry ·
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    THIS! If you go down for brunch in the morning and there happens to be other people down there from the night before, join them and others will follow. It will clear you of any obligation to pay. (And actually, someone else might pick up your tab as a late wedding gift!)


    However, if you want to stay upstairs with your husband, all cozy and tingly from the champagne, do that instead. Everyone will understand that the newlyweds need their time alone! Smiley heart

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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    I am with everyone else, team skip it. We didn't do a brunch either, we couldn't wait to get home!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    You don't need one! We had a ton of out of state guests. On Saturday night, we had 43 rooms in our hotel block so basically all of our 125 guests were in the hotel minus maybe 10? We had a large rehearsal dinner (70 people). On our website, a details card on the invites, and in the welcome bag pamphlet we said this:

    "Other Events: On Friday night at 8 PM, the bride & groom will be in the hotel bar. If you're already in town, come say hi! On Sunday morning, the bride & groom will be in the lobby saying goodbye to guests."

    It left us plenty of time in addition to the RD and wedding to see other guests for longer periods of time and no one expected it to be hosted.

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