wedding cash gift amount

A gift is a generous thought no matter the amount - so don't stress out worrying about how much!

I think at our wedding around 40% didn't give us anything. And the rest the standard seemed to be about $100 per couple. We got one Uncle of H who couldn't make it sent a little more, and one of his crazy colleagues who is always over gifting people (seriously, she buys everyone she knows piles of gifts at Christmas) gave more. And the owner of the Caribbean resort where he works gave us $1000 (but they own a resort in the Caribbean - so yeah).

My sister who has a family and had to spend a lot of money to get there didn't gift anything.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you give based on what you can afford and what you like to do. Not one person in this world can tell you how much to give. If you can only spare $10 then that's perfectly fine as well.

To those who give hundreds...what is your address? You are now invited to my wedding!

Wow hundreds? I would say it's either very regional or they have higher paying jobs. In my area the standard amount ranges from $20-100, just depending on the income and life of the people giving it. My parents could usually only do $20 or so but they had 7 kids and my dad was the only one working.The ones that gave more usually have the higher paying jobs or no kids lol. I once gave my friends $100 since I was able to at the time. They were beyond amazed that I did that.

I'd say give what you feel comfortable. Weddings in and around our area (NYC) are some of the most $ nationwide so we usually give $400 as a couple.

For friends I give 75-100. I give more for close family if if can swing it.

If you can't give as much as you want for the wedding gift, you could buy something off of their registry at a later date once your finances are better. Good luck!

The average we received from couples was $75. Most we got from relatives was $200. $75 is a good number, and I'm sure the couple would appreciate any amount. I'm shocked at some of these high numbers. Not in the AZ area, that's for sure.

If ya'll are shocked at these gift amounts, you'd be even more shocked at what the bride and groom pay per head!

I live in Central Michigan. You don't get hundreds/per person as gifts here except maybe from your grandparents or favorite aunt and uncle. We give 50.00 - 100.00 total, except for our kids who got quite a bit more as their gift, along with their wedding. I heartily agree with Miss Manners who feels that couples who expect you to "cover your plate" are exceedingly rude so that never comes into play for us.

I do agree that different regions, different cultures approach this differently. Before I started hanging out on wedding boards I had NO idea people gave some of the amounts pp's have listed! I started wondering if we were inviting the wrong people to our girls' weddings!

If someone I loved had a problem receiving a 50.00 gift I would think far less of them. Whatever happened to "it's the gift that counts"?

OP - give what you can afford. It will come from your heart and that is what counts. You should not jeopardize your finances right now when your FI is without a job.

Probably the most common gift amount we received is $75- $100. Only a small handful of people gave more than that. I believe the largest amount we were given was $250.

I'd say given your circumstances, giving somewhere between $50- $100 is perfectly acceptable. Several of my cousins spend less than $50 on our gift, but they were generous enough to give us something so the price tag/amount didn't matter and many cousins didn't even bring a card.

We tend to give $50-100. We received gifts that ranged from $50-100 from our guests. My FIL gave us $1000. My mom gave us nothing, not even a gift, because she's an asshole (and no, she didn't contribute to the wedding at all, monetarily or otherwise).

Considering your wedding is coming up, give at least $150.00 and hope they do the same for you guys in January.

Why should she give "at least" 150.00?

It's normally about $200-300 per couple here, $100-150 if single, so probably regional.

That being said, give them a very nice card, whatever amount you can afford and have them for dinner when they come back from their honeymoon.

It's normally about $200-300 per couple here, $100-150 if single, so probably regional.

That being said, give them a very nice card, whatever amount you can afford and have them for dinner when they come back from their honeymoon.