This is sort of a post looking for suggestions, but also kind of a space to think. I welcome any ideas and thoughts about this situation! 
My fiance proposed to me back on December 28, 2019. It's been just about a year of being engaged! Our wedding is scheduled with his church, our photographer, florist, caterers, etc. etc. for October 2, 2021. So, early next fall. Unfortunately, though we've been doing a great job staying on top of wedding planning in general, life has managed to get in the way. Thankfully, we haven't had any COVID difficulties since our date is so far out, however, in late September I found out that my mom has stage 4a lung cancer.
Unfortunately, we are unable to move our wedding up because of the vendors we've already booked. And, I know my mom doesn't want us to make things more complicated for her sake - it would stress her out even more.
She has been undergoing chemotherapy for 6 weeks now (three weeks on, one week off), and thanks to a bout with pneumonia that put her back in the hospital, she has been on pure oxygen at all times since - this is a new development, as in the past she only needed it when she went to sleep and she was able to use an oxygen concentrator, not the full pure oxygen tanks. But I digress. While we have not yet received a "prognosis" per say, we are expecting her to go through some tests in January to see how the cancer is reacting to the chemo.
In essence, I am trying to come up with a creative way to incorporate my mom in a wedding festivity because even if she is still around come the wedding date next year, if she is still doing this poorly she will not be able to travel the 6 hours down to my fiance's hometown, much less stay the whole weekend for a wedding (though I know she would want to). Her biggest fear right now is not making it to our wedding. If she is still around, I will certainly find a way to live stream it for her. However, worst case scenario, she will not be present at that time, and especially in that case I am trying to figure out something I can do to incorporate her while she's still here.
For instance, we won't be doing the unity candle at our ceremony because the priest doesn't like it, for some reason (don't ask why, I have no clue!), so I thought perhaps we could have a little party where we do the unity candle ceremony or even the sand ceremony to include both my mom and my groom's mom. All of this depends on her function at the time of the event, but I sincerely welcome any ideas for what I could plan to keep her engaged in the wedding fun!
Should I ask my maids of honor to maybe plan the shower a bit early? Or just an extra little shower-type celebration? I might have to have two showers, anyway, because of the large gap between my family and my FH's family location wise. Any ideas would be helpful! I don't have much wiggle room for budgeting but I know seeing me get married means a lot to my mom and at this point we've just arranged too many vendors to move up the date. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome!
