We were planning on having our wedding on September 12, but now are leaning towards having a small ceremony the night before and just the reception on Saturday. We're DIYing almost everything, so I like the idea of personally being able to help set up (if they were on the same day I couldn't help set things up) and make sure things are how I want it. Also, there is some distance between the venues, so it would be pretty great having them two different days.
Everything was getting settled for that until I realized the day before is September 11th, a Day of Remembrance. I really do not want to be disrespectful or seem like I'm just washing over it. I started looking at other pages and they say basically if you didn't know anyone personally from NYC/DC and aren't having it near there (we're located on the Oregon coast), that you should be good, but I still feel weird about that date. If we do, is it bad to have a moment of silence in a church ceremony? Some family members are saying it might be good to have something beautiful/happy on a generally bad day.. Neither of us were even 5 years old at the time, but we still pray and mourn that day together. I just don't know if it is completely wrong or okay to have a ceremony on that day? Any thoughts? TIA!