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Emily
Dedicated April 2022

Wedding Coordinator yes or no?

Emily, on August 12, 2021 at 12:52 AM Posted in Planning 1 21
Brides and brides to be,any advice on whether or not to get a coordinator?

I have high functioning anxiety and recently putting together our guest list has made me a tad bit stressed out thinking about all the people to manage and things to remember the day of.
Is it worth it to get a coordinator if we have around 100 guests,some with kiddos also? Our moms both said they would help out with as much as they can and we have several other family members offering to help,but im not sure how realistic it is to have family doing all the coordinating. Any advice is appreciated thank you!

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Latest activity by Chaka, on August 20, 2021 at 10:26 PM
  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Day of coordinators are life savers and the community generally recommends them, if you can afford them.

    Your moms are going to want to be with you, and family, and enjoying the party, not organizing it.

    Check out the vendors in your area - there are a LOT of day of coordinators... or your venue may provide one.

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  • Sylvana
    Devoted August 2021
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    As someone who paid to have a day of coordinator who failed to show up, I can tell you from experience that yes. You will want a day of coordinator. I spent most of the day, including after the ceremony, trying to get people to where they needed to be. I was left in a position that I just had to throw my hands in the air and say screw it before I could actually let loose and enjoy myself.


    Get the day of coordinator. I'd even cut an unnecessary item to make sure you have one. They are life savers.
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  • M
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    Yes! I hired one And so far she is helping / relieving stress by taking care of things like offering to do our seating arrangement for guests, reaching out about scheduling our rehearsal, and reminding me of things I may have otherwise forgotten. Plus she will be the go to on the day of for everything which means family will not be burdened with extra tasks and get to enjoy the day a little more.
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  • Ashlee
    Super September 2022
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    Our venue has a day of coordinator and their staff does all of the day of things, so I didn't hire one, but I would say they're definitely helpful and you do not want to be stressed about all the details day of

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  • Erin
    Dedicated November 2022
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    I would go for it so that you and your family can enjoy the wedding too rather than feel like they are working during it. I hired a month-of coordinator so I am doing all of the planning and vendor booking but 3-4 weeks out from the wedding my coordinator will take everything over and make sure everything is happening on schedule all the way up to the after-party of the wedding. I highly recommend at least hiring a day-of coordinator so you and your family can enjoy the day.

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  • Emily
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    Emily ·
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    Thank you Rebecca!
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  • Emily
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    Emily ·
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    Thank you Sylvana!
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  • Emily
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    Emily ·
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    Thank you Msalberts!
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  • Emily
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    Thank you Ashlee!
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  • Emily
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    Emily ·
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    Thank you Erin! It's looking like a definite yes from everyone so far so thats a good sign to go ahead and get one.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Having a day of coordinator is a must in my opinion. They are so helpful and really take the stress off of you, your wedding party, and your family.
    They will be the point of contact for all of your vendors, help with set up and break down, & keep your day flowing smoothly, among other things. I was so glad we had one!
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  • Nicole
    Beginner October 2021
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    In the beginning I didn't want one and put all the stress on myself. Then I gave in and the stress melted. I can bounce ideas off of her, she messages me about things i should consider or if she should pick up certain items i may need or want. She is going to take care of everything for me the day of so i dont have to stress about it. So as much as i hate spending the extra money on it, it is totally worth it when it comes to your anxiety and stress levels.

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  • Lauren
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    100% best money I spent on my wedding. We had a smaller destination wedding (50 people) in FL and we're from PA. I wound up paying for a larger package that included more services which we found worth it since we weren't local and her connections were great. She told me when I hired her that all I would have to do the day of was get ready-and she wasn't kidding!! We had a few snafus during the day including having to make a last minute reception location change due to weather and she handled it ALL. She'd pop in my ready room to give me updates on everything, made sure all vendors and guests were where they were supposed to be. I do not believe my day would have gone any near as smoothly if it wouldn't have been for my wedding coordinator.
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    August 2021
    Nancy ·
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    Hire a ‘Day- Of’ coordinator. You’ll save yourself a lot of stress.
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  • Donna
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    Our venue has a DOC built in, so we got lucky in that aspect (not having to pay extra). Unless you have someone who is super organized and wants to handle all things on the day of your wedding and not really enjoy themselves as a guest then I would suggest hiring a planner. But don't let them rip you off either! I think about $500-$1k is average for a DOC. Some people want $2k or more and that's definitely a rip off. However, if you don't have a lot of moving parts for your day you can totally get away with not having one.

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  • Thinn
    Devoted September 2021
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    I hired month / day of planner. They will come in about 30 days before your wedding and take care of everything from the payments to seating charts to rehearsal planning and everything you need to accomplish in between and the day of. In my opinion taking that stress away from you so close to the wedding day is important
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  • Maddie
    Expert February 2022
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    All the women I know who DIDN'T have one, regret it and have told me to get one...so we are. You want to enjoy your day, not worry about what's happening behind the scenes. I agree with Donna above though - if it's just a DOC, don't pay anything more than $1200. The average price I saw was $1000.

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  • Michel
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    I think that if you don't want to worry too much, it is better to hire a coordinator. It will be much easier for you

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  • Ingrid
    Dedicated September 2022
    Ingrid ·
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    I think its personal choice.

    If your venue has a coordinator that will be very helpful (and if it is included). If you don't want to spend the money I would reach out to family and friends( especially if you have a bridal party to plan and coordinate). I have a large bridal party and very supportive friends and family and still hired a coordinator. We hired her just to scout out locations, help go through contracts, and now I won't need her until closer to the wedding date when we coordinate the rehearsal and day of wedding. I don't want to stress and it ruin the day- I think it was worth the investment. Hope this helps Smiley smile

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    We hired a partial planner and just wished we started out with full planning so there was no catch up. I'm actually very good with spreadsheets and budgets, while my husband was very specific about what he wanted. So it was helpful to have a third party to translate and mediate! He found us deals and even drove & set-up the last-minute DIY uplighting himself. Everything was seamless, guests were happy, I remembered to eat (with his reminder), and I kept within my budgets.

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