Wedding Curse

Yes , I believe it . I lost my maid of honor and a bridesmaid. Funny for the same reason as you. I think weddings can bring the worst out of some people and it's unfortunate.

Hey Babe Yes. I have lost 2 people within my wedding. One was my best gay male friend who was going to stand on my side. It kinda felt like he was taking over my wedding and trying to plan his own wedding. He would always say thing like If it was me I would do this and that. He made me change my mind on my wedding dress so many times and at that point I just decided I was going dress shopping without him. Once I did that I was able to find the one! I also lost another friend, Idk really know what happened but she seemed uninterested and didn't want to be apart of it. So she just dropped out. But those are the only 2. Everyone else has been so supportive, loving and caring.

I lost a friendship of 10 years.

She withdrew from the wedding party via email and I haven’t heard from her since. It’s painful because we’ve been friends for so long but her actions every step of the way proved she was either extremely jealous (no one likes her BF of 10 years, she believes she can never have a normal wedding bc if it) or she never truly cared. I personally believe it’s the former or some mix.

Weddings tend to weed out those who won’t support us or our marriages. A true test of friendship. It hurt at first but now I know the girls left standing with me will stand with me and us (our marriage) through life. I’m sorry for your pain, losing those we love hurts regardless of the situation.

I don't think its a curse, I think that weddings and big events tend to bring out true characters of other people. Day to day events, you don't realize how people really feel about you until the spotlight is actually on you. I lost one bestfriend because of the decision to date my FH and the other because of our decision to get married. Their excuse was "they don't think I am happy" (which they have absolutely no proof of this, it's actually the opposite) and other BS excuse they can muster up. But it just showed me, they don't want to see me happy on my terms and it's their loss.

Neither of us have lost anyone. We also are not having a bridal party nor sharing our planning process but with a few people.

86 days out and nothing yet so fingers crossed nothing. I think a lot of it depends on your friendship and family ties with the people. My MOH and I have been through some of the hardest times of my life (finding out I was pregnant freshman year of college, to being a single mother, to losing my sister back in January). I don't see our friendship going anywhere. She just blessed me with the most beautiful niece ever. My other girls I am very close with as well. That being said I did have a bridesmaid that is no longer a bridesmaid but that was my decision and was a terrible idea to ask her to be apart of it anyways (we had just met maybe 4 months prior to my engagement). So I don't really count that as a true loss.

Update to my previous comment now that the shower has come and gone, it has happened lol..

Most relationships have stayed the same as we are doing everything ourselves and not asking for or expecting help but there are quiet a few that have become very distant and not responding to messages, not going to any wedding related functions, ignoring invitations to things etc even things not wedding related...crazy.

Yes! I've lost 2 friends since getting engaged, and both were at one point part of my bridal party. I kicked one out because of several reasons, but the main one is that she didn't act like she even cared about my wedding- every time I brought it up she didn't want to talk about wedding planning. We no longer talk because I got busy with work and trying to make a living and she couldn't understand that I have a life more than just spending time with her.

The other is my ex best friend and was MOH and she removed herself from my life by saying that I "made her major life events about me" with me being hurt that she didn't tell me she was getting married (I was literally on her couch a month before and she didn't say a word, I think it's fair for me to be a bit hurt that she didn't think to tell me.) I was of course happy that she got married, but that didn't take the sting out of it. We no longer talk because of her.

I fell like if these people don't care enough to either be excited for me and my wedding or don't care enough to tell me that they're getting married, then they don't value me as much as a friend as I did them and I don't need that in my life. So I'm better off without them.

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I lost my aunt (stroke) and my cousin (heart attack) all in the month of May. Both of these were shocking and sudden. Also my FH had a family member pass a few days ago. I was at first thinking our wedding was cursed. It’s a little disconcerting this happening in the past few months but like you said friends and family die. Death is an inevitable thing.

I appear to have fully ticked off my mother, and by extension, her family.

The latter part is the part that hurts. My mother I saw coming a mile away... it's kind of a relief, actually.

My sister is my MOH and lives 6 hours away, so she hasn't been able to help with a lot of stuff. My other bridesmaid is here in town with me, was ecstatic when I asked her to be a bridesmaid, and that's it. She will come to bridal expos with her bridesquad glasses on, but when it comes to me actually asking for help, or saying this is whats going on ect, shes uninvolved. I think I am actually going to end up planning my own bachelorette party, and my own shower if I have one. It makes me really sad and feel like..why did you say yes?

My fiance lost his Best Woman and a groomsman. They were part of a school squad they had formed and all of them are no more.

I haven't and genuinely was hopeful it wouldn't happen but I was told by other brides that sometimes it shows you who your true friends are.

I'm very early in the planning process so nothing has happened yet, but I'm certainly re-evaluating my relationship with my MOH and whether we're really as close as either of us really thinks we are. We had a little bit of a tiff over her +1 because she's single and seems to only be talking to her ex just to bring someone. She mentioned there was some drama and I was like I don't want to hear about it, I don't even want to hear that word when I'm planning a wedding. Since then she's gotten a little quiet so I'm hoping it's just a matter of us each needing a little space for now to cool off.