Wedding day regrets & dread

How much planning do you have left? If all of your major vendors are booked, then maybe you need to take a break from all planning and focus on yourself. Schedule a date night and just get excited about marrying your FH. I'm sorry planning has been so stressful for you.

Hi Kathy! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community! I am sorry to hear you're feeling so overwhelmed. First, just take a deep breath and relax. I know this can be a very stressful time, but the only way to alleviate the process is to remain calm with a positive outlook. Think of the great things that will come out of this process - you'll marry your best friend and be surrounded by close friends and family members in a fun celebration. This is a special day you'll look back on for the rest of your life, so just allow yourself to rejoice in the moment. Take some time to gather your thoughts and go for a walk to unwind from the pressures. If you can, I would even get a massage; just find time to relax! You'll be fine, and everything will work out! Don't worry! I hope things get better! Hang in there!

Hey Kathy, I understand where you’re coming from. Planning a wedding is incredibly stressful and time consuming. I was in a similar situation not too long ago when a vendor almost backed out—but that’s another story. Like a PP just said, you need to take a least a day or two for yourself to just breathe and not think about anything wedding related. Once you’ve had a bit of a break, I think it’s important you talk to your FH about how difficult this has been for you. Even if he got emotional, he may not be understanding that while he’s over the moon to get married, you’ve been the one carrying all the weight of figuring things out. I had to have a real in depth conversation with my fiancé about this, and he got a lot better once I helped him understand where I was coming from. I think a large reason of you dreading this day is because the closer it gets, the more stress it adds onto you. Venting on here can certainly help, but I think you’ll feel loads better when your fiancé can see where you’re coming from. Hope this helps xx

Thanks all! We booked all the big stuff, and are down to small details like decor and activities for the honeymoon...and the groom needs to get his suit. But I just really don't want to think about it anymore ;/

If everything major is done, take a break! Everyone told me that the 5-6 month mark would make me feel defeated and overwhelmed - and it 100% did. I stopped all wedding talk for about two weeks, it really helped a lot. Maybe you just need a break from all of the pressure of planning. I hope that you start feeling better about it soon!

Please take a break. Planning shouldn't cost you your sanity or your happiness.

And when you pick planning back up again, try to incorporate your FH. You shouldn't be planning this day by yourself, especially since the day is about both of you as a couple, not just you. You mentioned that he was excited about it so getting him involved shouldn't be too hard.