Wedding day ruined

I didn’t experience this at all, but I’m so sorry you had such an awful experience on what should have been a great day. I’m a little concerned about the fact that your husband yells at you when you bring it up. What does he say?

View Quoted Comment He basically protects his friend. Like he says his friend was in the wrong but he then gets mad at me and says I should be over it. He says the ceremony went great so why am I not happy. Which I get but it’s just sad that he doesn’t understand how long I was waiting for this day. Maybe all men think this way. Who knows? Haha

View Quoted Comment Do you think it’s because to your husband, the day went well? That’s not a disregard to your feelings, I had wine spilled on my dress and didn’t even notice it until later, and was crying about it at the end. How often are you bringing up the day was ruined to you? It sounds like he’s given you validation initially. He married you, so to him he may feel the day was amazing and he may be upset that the topic of the dress and all the negatives are being brought up constantly (I have no idea how often you try to talk about it). Just a thought. Accidents happen and it sucks. Regardless you have your feelings, and when you are over it is up to you.

I'm honestly more concerned about the yelling than anything else. I get raising his voice out frustration if you're bringing this up regularly, but if he's a regular yeller, that's a red flag.


Are you trying to come up with constructive solutions, such as editing your photos or another photoshoot in your wedding outfits? Or are you just crying and lamenting about it?
Accidents happen, but one should not be getting drunk enough to spill wine over an expensive dress, especially so early in an event. I'd be hesitant to invite such a person to my home or a party I'm hosting.

Wow, love I’m soo sorry ! I couldn’t imagine this happening to me . A lot of us women wait for a day like this ! Especially during a time like this . If you bought up regularly , I understand why. It’s recent and you can’t get over it yet! As far as your hubby yelling at you , it dosen’t seem like he understands if he is defending your friend?

View Quoted Comment All men do not think this way.
Your husband should not discount your feelings and he especially should never yell at you. This is very concerning. I’m sorry that his friend spilled the drink but it sounds like the bigger issue is with your husband.
You deserve much better than this. Please seek counseling so that you can see how much more you deserve.

I agree with people here -- i think it's a red flag at him yelling at you when you bring it up.

i also like what PP suggested where you can always do another photoshoot!

I am so sorry this happened and your husband has not been more supportive.

How often have you discussed this with your husband? If you bring this up constantly it may be that your husband feels like what's done is done, and you can't fix it now so why keep being upset over it. If its not a constant thing and your husband is yelling at you and defending his friend, then his loyalties appear to be with the friend and not you, which is not what I would want in my marriage. His friend clearly messed up; you have every right to be upset about it.

Has the friend ever apologized to you?

I didn’t think my wedding day was the best day of my life. I got married 11/20 this was my reschedule date due to Covid. So much stress and anxiety not to mention so many things that went wrong. Our wedding colors were boho rust, tan, and white and our florist showed up with hot pink flowers my bouquet had hot pink roses and a red ribbon and all my bridesmaids where in Tan and rust it was a disaster. She made the boutonnieres for the men pink flowers I had to have my wedding planner go out and buy white roses to change them out 30 minutes before the ceremony. It honestly really sucks when things don’t go the way you imagine especially after waiting so much time also all the thousands of dollars it’s really disappointing. I even reached out to the florist after she didn’t respond to any of my emails and blocked me on Instagram. At this point me and my husband just trying to move forward and live our lives and not have to worry about wedding planning which has been so nice. Im sorry your wedding didn’t go as planned but just know there’s other brides out here that feel the same way as you and you’re not alone 🤍